Do something nice for someone else
One of the fastest, most effective ways to feel happier is to show someone kindness.
In a 2017 study by Oxford University, researchers found that performing acts of kindness for just seven days had a measurable, positive effect on well-being and positive social emotion.
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The first step in approaching a negative situation with an optimistic outlook is to accept what you canât change.
Once youâve done that, you have 2 options: reframe ( look for an opportunity instead of ruminating on the loss ) or divert (shift your focus to something else).
Noticing and savoring the pleasant moments and thinking, "Wow, this is really great "can strengthen positive emotions.
In general, we tend to dwell on the negative side and not notice the positive things we experience.
Write yourself a message on a sticky note and attach it to your computer screen at work (an inspirational quote, a reminder to smile, etc).
Small reminders like these help keep positivity front and center in your life.
Most optimists have strong, supportive relationships. The comfort of knowing you donât have to do everything by yourself contributes to long-term happiness.
You donât have to have a lot of them, but you have to have around you people you trust and trust you back.Â
Thinking about what youâre grateful for can instantly improve your mood.
It works because our interpretation of events influences our emotions more than the events themselves.
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Try not to look bored, rude or hostile.
A useful attitude is welcoming, curious and enthusiastic:Â smile, make eye contact long enough to notice the color of that personâs eyes, sit without crossing your arms or legs. This project a positive, open warm impression.
Donât conflate boredom with relaxation. A purposefully tranquil activity, such as yoga or meditation, likely doesnât meet the definition of trying and failing to find stimulation.
To tap into true boredom, unplug, pick an activity that requires little or no concentration and simply let your mind wander, without music or stimulation to guide it.
The term refers to manipulation that gets people to question themselves, their reality, memory or thoughts. Gaslighters twist what you say and make it about them, hijacking the conversation or making you feel like youâve done something wrong when you havenât.
Gaslighted people often feel a false sense of guilt or defensiveness, as if they failed completely or did something wrong when they didnât.