During the pandemic, being at home with a partner reveals the "invisible work" they're doing, which may be taken for granted. This expanded view of ourselves and our partners can go in two directions.

• In one direction, you are curious and say, "I never knew. I really appreciate ...

How you say something is as important as what you say. 

• Do not use extremes. Accusations such as, ‘you never,’ ‘you always’ do not add any value to your argument.
• Use ‘I’ statements emphasizing how you feel, rather than ‘you.’