Mind your language
How you say something is as important as what you say.
- Do not use extremes. Accusations such as, ‘you never,’ ‘you always’ do not add any value to your argument.
- Use ‘I’ statements emphasizing how you feel, rather than ‘you.’
- Validate your partner’s feelings. Invalidation happens when you recognize your partner’s feelings but then discount, belittle, ignore or minimize them.
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