Many adopt values from other pre-packaged sources, like a religion, culture, or legal system. But, by adopting a value system without reflection, you make way for personal values that cause conflict between your perceived beliefs and the actions you take.
To find your own values:
- Make mistakes and violate your current values. Good judgment comes from experience and that comes easy by making bad judgments.
- Hear others clearly express a deeply held belief of yours you couldn’t articulate.