Having an adult relationship with your ego

What you want is to become more aware of those mechanisms, recognize them for what they are, and “manage” or supervise them. 

• My “adult relationship” with this involves learning to be aware, manage, and restrain my temper — and naturally, that includes telling the truth about it and not fooling myself or justifying it.

It also includes being willing to apologize and “take it back” when I’ve said something I shouldn’t have said.