We often get stuck in life because we’re either unable or unwilling to accept our reality as it is. Instead, we stubbornly continue to indulge in fantasy, specifically, how we wish things were.
This is where you’ll need to get real with yourself, no matter how unpleasant it is.
Ask yourself: What’s your situation now, and how can you work with what is, not what you wish it was?

How to start over: Make peace with reality and work with, not against it

When you’re trying to rebuild a new foundation for your life — and preferably a rock-solid one — you’ll need some help in the form of guidance from a mentor who’s done it before.This person could be someone who’s achieved a goal you’ve set your sights on, has reinvented themselves successfully or just has the qualities that you’re working towards building within yourself.What matters is that watching them do what they do in the world inspires you to do more, and to do better every single day, even when setbacks rear their ugly head.

Get a mentor

<ul><li>It could mean adding or subtracting something (or someone) from your life.</li><li>It could mean making the tiniest tweak to your diet.</li><li>It could mean switching jobs, yet again.</li><li>It could mean changing your thoughts or how you talk to yourself.</li></ul>It won't be easy, but you’ll be glad you did it.

Design a plan to eliminate these obstacles

So you’ve taken a couple of wrong turns and ended up getting burned. Now, you’re afraid to make mistakes and have developed the habit of doubting yourself, over-analyzing every move you’re thinking of making, and hesitating mid-step.Here’s something you need to know: Mistakes are never going to stop coming. If anything, they’re only going to creep up on you more frequently, get more challenging and take just as much time (or more) to recover from.With or without the fear, and whether or not you give in to it, you will make more mistakes.

Overcome your fear of being wrong

It’s OK to feel terrified about heading into new, unchartered territory. It’d be weird if you didn’t.
But know that this is the point where you start putting one foot in front of the other regardless of how you feel, or chicken out and retreat into your cave.
It’s time to get moving despite the paralyzing fear and soul-crushing doubt that are making your feet and heart feel like lead.

How to start over: Work up the courage to do it

To build something good, you’ll need good daily habits. But to turn a new, unfamiliar action into a daily habit, you’ll need to do everything you can to reduce the odds that you’ll give up, particularly when you hit a speed bump.One of the best ways to do this is to set up your environment for your success. This means clearing the space where you spend the most time in of clutter, trash, and chaos.The result: A calmer, clearer, and focused mind that’ll help you move forward with your plan and sticking to it.

Start with cleaning up the space you live in

No one starts out planning to fail or creating a disaster. But somehow, we end up taking one or several wrong steps along the way and find ourselves on a painful path we never expected to be in.Whether these missteps were driven by ego, a lack of awareness, miscalculation, denial, or simply carelessness, you owe it to yourself to be honest with the captain of your ship: You.It’s only once you’ve taken the time to reflect and figure out what went wrong and where things started to fall apart that you can start putting together a new plan with your success-driving strategy baked in.

Reflect on what and where you went wrong

Life’s not one big Hallmark movie where everything’s pretty, shiny, and happy all the time: Shitty things happen to good people, relationships break up all the time, anxiety and depression can tighten their grip, and addictions have the power to break the strongest among us.But once you’ve made it through the worst and the dust settles, it’s time to start over.It’s OK to start over — it’s a natural part of evolving into a smarter, better, and stronger version of yourself, and no one should ever make you feel bad for wanting (and needing) to.

It's ok to start over

‘Decision’ comes from the Latin word decisio, which literally means “to cut off”.But while picking one path means cutting yourself off from all others, it doesn’t mean that you can’t course-correct later on by choosing a different one if things don’t work out or feel right.

Decide what you want to do next

Being consistent with your new habits will give you the results you’re after and keep you inspired to keep going. Until you hit a wall. Here, you’ll get stuck.It happens, and it will happen. Your body will adapt to your new workout program. Your new daily routine will eventually feel mundane and boring, causing your motivation to take a dip. Or maybe you’ll experience a huge setback, leaving you feeling down and confused.This is when you’ll need to diagnose the problem, regroup and fix it. Your priority? Figure out how to work your way around this thing that’s standing in your way so you can k<warningtag>eep moving forward on your new path.</warningtag>

Identify the obstacles standing in your way

You may have an idea of where you’d like to go: Run it through a stress test:<ul><li>How do you want to live? </li><li>Does your idea align with your values?</li><li>What are your values anyway?</li><li>What will you do if someone close to you disagrees or tries to tear it down? </li><li>What will happen if you find yourself feeling tempted to stray away from it?</li></ul>Put your ideas, values, and stress-test answers down on paper so you can see them all in one place and let them sink in.

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How To Start Over: Reboot Your Life

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