“What we hate says a lot about who we are, what we value, what we care about. And how we hate says much about how we will succeed in business and life.”

6. What you hate shapes your character as a leader, so choose wisely.

“People who succeed in leadership and life do not go around settling scores. They do not even keep score.”

7. Forget fairness; give back more than you receive.

“Send Superman to the unemployment line. Get moving and do something!”

4. Work to improve difficult situations, even when they are not your responsibility.

“Successful leaders fail just like everyone else. But it’s the way they handle their failure and imperfections that sets them apart.”

8. Stop telling self-aggrandizing stories; practice humility instead.

Successful leaders share 9 behavior patterns: 1. Identify your hidden desires, dreams and potential2. Reject negativity. Direct your energy to actions that trigger hope3. Consider the future implications of your actions4. Improve difficult situations, even when they are not your responsibility5. Achieve your biggest dreams through incremental steps6. What you hate shapes your character as a leader, so choose wisely7. Forget fairness; give back more than you receive8. Stop telling self-aggrandizing stories; practice humility instead9. Don’t let your fear of others’ reactions control you

9 Things a Leader Must Do

“My firm belief is that once you learn this pattern, your life and the lives of those you lead will never be the same.”

Successful leaders share nine behavior patterns you can learn and apply.

Successful leaders overcome aspects of their lives that make them feel negative, which can include those that are:<ul><li>“Physical” – Clutter, junk and an overflowing email inbox have a deleterious impact on your environment.</li><li>“Relational” – Beware of people who influence you negatively.</li><li>“Emotional” – Avoid unnecessary worry or anxiety.</li><li>Time-based – Reconsider activities that don’t lead you in a productive direction.</li></ul>“Hope means investing time and energy toward results that you have solid reason to believe can be achieved.”

2. Don’t accept negativity. Direct your energy toward actions that trigger hope.

Successful leaders don’t take careless risks; they take risks thoughtfully, diligently and cautiously<ul><li>Pay attention to what bothers you – Your inner voice might be telling you something.</li><li>Overcome negativity</li><li>Don’t ignore persistent dreams</li><li>Analyze your fantasies – Perhaps they’re saying something is missing from your life.</li><li>Confront obstacles and fears</li><li>Don’t let envy confuse you</li><li>Pay attention to symptoms – Is your body trying to communicate something to you?</li><li>Seek community</li><li>Pray</li></ul>

1. Identify your hidden desires, dreams and potential.

“All success is built and sustained just like a building is built, one brick at a time.”

5. Achieve your biggest dreams through a series of incremental steps.

“Successful leaders know how each scene contributes to the film’s good end. They don’t see just one scene; they watch the whole movie to the end.”

3. Consider the future implications of your actions.

“To be a successful leader, you may not keep everyone around you happy. In fact, if you are successful in any arena of life, you are guaranteed to tick some people off!”

9. Don’t let your fear of others’ reactions control you.

How to Go to the Next Level – And Take Others With You

Why do some leaders get and accomplish what they want as a matter of routine, while others seem to regularly experience frustration and setbacks? Why do some leaders achieve their goals and reach new heights, while others barely "hang in there" and survive? Based on his groundbreaking psychological study of the ways that successful individuals think and behave, Dr. Henry Cloud presents a simple yet profound roadmap to help leaders-and those who want to become leaders-arrive at greater levels of personal growth and corporate influence than they previously thought were possible. The good news for all of us is that leadership success is not limited to vague notions of "charisma" nor traditional advantages like graduate degrees and connections, but much more to a pattern of thinking and moving forward that learns from mistakes and stays focused on goals.

Why do some leaders get and accomplish what they want as a matter of routine, while others seem to regularly experience frustration and setbacks? Why do some leaders achieve their goals and reach new heights, while others barely "hang in there" and survive? Based on his groundbreaking psychological study of the ways that successful individuals think and behave, Dr. Henry Cloud presents a simple yet profound roadmap to help leaders-and those who want to become leaders-arrive at greater levels of personal growth and corporate influence than they previously thought were possible. The good news for all of us is that leadership success is not limited to vague notions of "charisma" nor traditional advantages like graduate degrees and connections, but much more to a pattern of thinking and moving forward that learns from mistakes and stays focused on goals.

Dr. Cloud has written or co-written twenty-five books, including the two million-seller Boundaries. His most recent books are Boundaries for Leaders and Necessary Endings. He has earned three Gold Medallion awards, and was awarded the distinguished Retailers Choice award for God Will Make A Way.As president of Cloud-Townsend Resources, Dr. Cloud has produced and conducted hundreds of public seminars around the country. He speaks on relationships—marriage, parenting, dating, personal growth, and spirituality. His seminars are often broadcast live to over two thousand venues at a time.

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