Letters from Esther Perel
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Most of us live dual lives, filled with ambivalence. On the one hand, we have a person who we really are and on the other hand, a person who we would like to be. We use promises and resolutions to try and bridge the gap.
Promise carries some accountability, and a resolution is simply a desire. Both of these point towards the person we would like to become, the optimized, ideal person that we can only imagine.
We keep hanging on the outdated promises that no longer serve us, or are no longer relevant. They also take the shape of excuses we have kept frozen inside our minds for decades.
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