<ol><li>Identify your fear(s) and their stories</li><li>Change the stories and beliefs</li><li>Embody your new beliefs through experiments</li></ol>

Conquer your fears with the ICE Framework

Before you can tackle something, you need to know what that something is.The 4 fears listed above are just examples. You might have more. So:<ul><li>Identify what your self-sabotaging behaviors are</li><li>Brain-dump the fear(s) driving each behavior</li><li>Identify the belief or story behind each fear.</li></ul> The story or belief could be about:<ul><li>Your abilities & lived experiences</li><li>Your familial and social environment</li></ul>

1. Identify your fear(s) and their stories

“If I succeed, will I ever achieve the same level of success again?” ”What if I can’t cope with the work that comes after achieving success, and burn out?”Result: You give up on ideas too early—right as you are about to achieve success.

Fear of Success

“What if [something bad] happens?”Result: <ul><li>Your risk assessment might be inaccurate.</li><li>You might not start on the project at all.</li></ul>

Fear of the Unknown

The root of self-sabotage is fear.
The 4 most common fears are:
<ol>
<li>Fear of Failure</li>
<li>Fear of Success</li>
<li>Fear of Judgement</li>
<li>Fear of the Unknown</li>
</ol>

Where does self-sabotage come from?

Make your new beliefs your new life narrative using deliberate experiments.Then, let the data speak for itself and guide you on your next steps. For more tips on Deliberate Experimentation: <a href="https://deepstash.com/article/170137/how-to-explore-your-interests-with-deliberate-experimentation">https://deepstash.com/article/170137/how-to-explore-your-interests-with-deliberate-experimentation</a> For more tips on "data collection" for goal achievement: <a href="https://deepstash.com/article/172029/3-data-points-to-collect-for-faster-goal-achievement">https://deepstash.com/article/172029/3-data-points-to-collect-for-faster-goal-achievement</a>

3. Embody your new beliefs through experiments

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“What if people hate or ridicule my work?”Result: <ul><li>You spend hours working on and “perfecting” your work.</li><li>Your perfectionism delays or prevents the work's launch.</li></ul>

Fear of Judgement

Question your stories and beliefs rigorously.Is it a valid concern, or are you making generous estimations of the future? Either way, turn those stories & beliefs into empowering ones that focus on what you can control.For more tips on this, you can check out this Stash: <a href="https://deepstash.com/article/174293/how-to-conquer-self-doubt-over-and-over-again">https://deepstash.com/article/174293/how-to-conquer-self-doubt-over-and-over-again</a>

2. Change the stories and beliefs

“What if [my target outcome] doesn't happen?”Result: <ul><li>You start on your project, then procrastinate on finishing it.</li><li>You believe that if you don’t launch anything, you can’t fail.</li></ul>

Fear of Judgement

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2. Perfectionism and fear of failure

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