The most important idea is to remember that both of us are imperfect and sometimes a little crazy. We shouldn't think we are always right and that our partner is always wrong. We should accept that we both make mistakes and need forgiveness.

Some couples never seem to argue. They are very polite to each other, saying thank you a lot and doing nice things like making each other tea. They get worried when they hear about other people fighting. It's okay if they feel a little proud of themselves for not arguing. But just because they don't argue doesn't mean their love is healthy. When two people try to live together, they will have differences and problems. Not arguing might mean they don't care anymore, not that they are mature. The goal is not to avoid arguments completely, but to learn how to argue in a better way.

How To Fight In Love

People listen better when they feel loved instead of attacked. If we want our partner to understand us, we should express our love before bringing up a problem.

Our partner's behavior is not always about us. They have their own worries and past experiences that shape them. We should try to understand where they are coming from and not take everything personally.

We need to choose the right time to argue. Arguments are not just about logic but also about emotions. So, it's better to wait until we are calmer and have a better chance of resolving things.

We shouldn't avoid talking about problems just because it feels uncomfortable or embarrassing. We should be brave and honest, as long as we approach it with love and care.

It's not important to prove that we are right all the time. Our goal should be to have a happy relationship with our partner, not to win arguments. Even if we have fights and say hurtful things, it's normal. Love can be messy sometimes, and arguments can bring us closer in the end.

Instead of thinking that our partner is the only annoying one, we should remember that everyone has flaws and can be difficult sometimes. The problem we have in our relationship is common to many others. It's a part of being human, and we can find some humor in it.

People don't change quickly, especially when someone is pushing them too hard. We should not expect our partner to change exactly the way we want and as fast as we want. We should be patient and not lose hope.

Arguments in relationships are always tricky but given that they are also inevitable, the skill we need to learn is how to fight well rather than not fight at all. By 'well' we mean, with charity, compassion, understanding, humour, intelligence and good will. Here is a guide to the best sorts of arguments in relationships. Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: https://bit.ly/2LayJ9F For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: https://bit.ly/2KKR1j8 Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: https://bit.ly/2DVZGOj 2reyMJU FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: https://bit.ly/2zB2bCO “There are couples that seem never to argue. Their relationships are marked by enormous outward politeness; they say thank you a lot; they make each other cups of tea; they can look rather horrified when there’s a mention of a squabble in someone else’s life. It’s understandable if they’re privately a little pleased with themselves. But surface harmony isn’t, in reality, any reliable sign of health in love because it’s impossible to try to merge two lives without regularly encountering deep sources of incompatibility. A lack of arguments is more likely to be a sign that we have given up caring than a superhuman achievement of maturity.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Visit us in person at our London HQ: https://bit.ly/2E9gKl2 Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: https://www.youtube.com/timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: https://support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: 2reyMJU/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Lois de Silva http://www.loisdesilva.com/

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Arguments in relationships are always tricky but given that they are also inevitable, the skill we need to learn is how to fight well rather than not fight at all. By 'well' we mean, with charity, compassion, understanding, humour, intelligence and good will. Here is a guide to the best sorts of arguments in relationships.
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“There are couples that seem never to argue. Their relationships are marked by enormous outward politeness; they say thank you a lot; they make each other cups of tea; they can look rather horrified when there’s a mention of a squabble in someone else’s life. It’s understandable if they’re privately a little pleased with themselves. 

But surface harmony isn’t, in reality, any reliable sign of health in love because it’s impossible to try to merge two lives without regularly encountering deep sources of incompatibility. A lack of arguments is more likely to be a sign that we have given up caring than a superhuman achievement of maturity.”


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