Analyze your positive and negative interactions to understand what works and doesn't work. Reflect on why you like or dislike someone to gain emotional intelligence. Leverage personal experiences as opportunities for learning effective influence and communication.

Use Experiences to Learn Influence Skills

Carefully sequence communications to facilitate acceptance. First ensure psychological safety and care. Then inspire and engage. Align sequence with audience culture. Brains shut down when messages skip steps or threaten people. Methodically build resonance.

Mind the Influence Sequence

<ul><li>Body language hugely impacts first impressions and ongoing influence. </li><li>Tone, eye contact, gestures and more convey cues. Examine your digital presence too. </li><li>Develop conscious awareness of the nonverbal messages you send. Presence stems from self-belief.</li></ul>

Master Your Nonverbal Cues  

Influence is not something that’s learned overnight. It’s an art that requires many skills and takes practice to master. Influence also is about personal significance and purpose—the impact each of us has or doesn’t have on others and the world around us.

The Power of Influence

Self-awareness is key for aligning messages and behaviors with values. Reflect honestly on how others see you to improve emotional intelligence. Self-coaching, feedback and journaling build consciousness to come across as gracious, confident and approachable.

Cultivate Self-Awareness

Influence by framing issues advantageously using stories and metaphors. Frames shape how people interpret reality. Battle for hearts and minds through credible, meaningful frames. But don't fabricate - authenticity matters.

Control the Narrative with Frames

When influencing, focus not just logic but emotional appeals like Aristotle's kairos (right timing) and telos (purpose). Align delivery with audience's mindset and values. Emotion moves people more than pure reason. Structure messages to resonate at a deeper level.

Focus on Emotional Appeals

Ineffective communicators overload people with information. Listen more than talk. Observe reactions. Validate others' perspectives. Ask clarifying questions. Choose words carefully to find common ground. two-way dialogue beats one-sided lecturing.

Listen More Than Talk

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Listen More Than Talk

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