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3) Taking other people’s opinions of you to heart

“You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time.”

That means we have to try to accept that we’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea — no matter what we do.

As long as being liked remains our top priority, we are constantly hyper-aware of how we come across.

And that’s bound to impact on your ability to show up authentically.

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8) People pleasing

Some of the other behaviors on our list generally fall under the people-pleasing category.

It can tempt you to:

Be as agreeable as possible, even when you think someone is wrong

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Introduction

Authentic living is all about carving out a life that is based on your own special secret sauce.

It’s so important because our overall well-being, the quality of our relationships, and the ability to reach our full potential often rest upon it.

These are the behaviors that you need to...

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1) Taking the easy way out

‘Anything for an easy life’ is certainly not the motto of someone with sincerity.

Because staying true to yourself often demands that you stick up for what you believe is right.

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2) Letting people take advantage of you

In keeping with the fighting theme, authenticity also demands some kickass boundaries.

To protect ourselves and create nurturing and healthy relationships we must know where to draw the line in the sand.

Allowing people to cross it, push our buttons, or walk all over us is a huge

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4) Keeping your thoughts, opinions, and ideas to yourself

When you live in constant fear of other’s judgements it can make you incredibly shy.

It seems like a better tactic to keep quiet and withdraw, rather than risk putting your foot in it by saying or doing the “wrong thing”.

For sure, there are circumstances when the wisest course of act...

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It's OK to have boundaries. You can tell someone "no" without having bad feelings toward them. You also never need to explain your boundaries once laid. A wise friend often states that "no" is a complete sentence.

WMAT AURYN

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Tips for living more authentically

The following can help:

Take time to define your core values
Focus on your strengths
Cultivate greater self-awareness of your emotions
Practice mindfulness to be more...

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Stand up for what is right even if you stand alone.

SUZY KASEEM

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The greatest fear in the world is of the opinions of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the crowd you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion. A great roar arises in your heart, the roar of freedom.

OSHO

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To say nothing is saying something. You must denounce things you are against or one might believe that you support things you really do not.

GERMANY KENT

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You will find me a woman with a sturdy character and not easily persuaded. Once my loyalty is given, I do not sway.

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We are entirely made up of dreams yearning to be lived. At every point in time, do what you can, when you can and however you can to invest your time and efforts in your dreams; directly and without evasion.

CHINONYE J. CHIDOLUE

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Never seek to please anyone. Seek to evolve thyself.”

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If you don't know who you truly are, you'll never know what you really want.

ROY T. BENNETT

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That’s pretty much how we get through our own lives, watching television. Smoking crap. Self-medicating. Redirecting our attention. Jacking off. Denial.

CHUCK PALAHNIUK

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6) Living your life for other people

Creating your own definition of success and happiness is vitally important if you want to live an authentic life.

Otherwise, you’re always chasing someone else’s dreams.

It sounds sort of silly, but the reality...

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Most people do not really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.

SIGMUND FREUD

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10) Living in denial

There is no way to live authentically when you are fooling yourself about certain fundamental truths.

That may be truths about yourself — who you are, how you feel, what you want. Or truths about the world around you.

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Our boundaries define our personal space – and we need to be sovereign there in order to be able to step into our full power and potential.

JESSICA MOORE

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5) Letting other people easily sway you

Whilst it’s admirable to take on board the feedback of people we respect, admire, and care for the most in the world —we need to beware.

Being open-minded is one thing, but we shouldn’t let just anyone throw their unsolicited advice at us.

If you are easily persuaded, it could be a ...

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9) Saying yes when you want to say no

How many times have you found yourself saying ‘yes’ when you really meant ‘no’?

It could be a favor that you’d rather not do. It might be to a date that you have zero interest in going on. It could be an event that you feel obligated to attend. If migh...

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7) Trying to shift blame and dodge responsibility

If you want to be authentic, you have to take responsibility for yourself .

Unless you can look at your actions, words, thoughts, and emotions with real honesty you’re never going to be able to reflect yourself with sincerity.

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The greatest challenge in life is to be our own person and accept that being different is a blessing and not a curse. A person who knows who they are lives a simple life by eliminating from their orbit anything that does not align with his or her overriding purpose and values. A person must be selective with their time and energy because both elements of life are limited.

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