Marriage

• Upgrading your no doesn't mean you'll never say yes.
• It just means you default to saying no and only say yes when it really makes sense.
• To quote the investor Brent Beshore, “Saying no is so powerful because it preserves the opportunity to say yes.”

Author says, "My lack of confidence compounds—I feel unconfident about sounding unconfident, which makes me even more unconfident. It's a never-ending cycle, a feedback loop from hell."

We mistakenly think marriage is just an event.

We have to understand that marriage is a process, filled with love, ups and downs, effort and struggle. It is not that we get married, throw a few parties and start to reap the 'rewards' of marriage, going about on our other interests....