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The problem with blame

If you focus on the outside and blaming others, your power evaporates. You can’t change anything because you have no stake in the game.

You become and remain a victim.

Having no responsibility means you also have no power. And having no power means you can’t affect change when and where you want.

As a victim in your own life and relationships, you retreat into defensiveness to protect yourself from a world that you assume is against you.

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It's all about change.

Words like "improve," "grow," and "evolve" are really just positive expressions for "change."

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Awareness

Being aware of what is going on outside of you is far easier than being aware of what is going on inside of you.

What others say and do, how they say and do it, traffic, weather, politics, love, hatred, kindness, and war - who has time to self-examine when there is so much to focus on "out...

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5. You often play the victim

Life is full of challenges, but it's important to take responsibility for your actions and reactions, rather than blaming others. This allows for personal growth and healthier relationships.

Signs of playing the victim include:

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  • Assume first that you are doing the easiest thing, and not the most difficult.
  • Do not deny someone’s responsibility for it exempts them of all agency and power. Things don’t happen on their own, all involved have personal responsibility, including the victims.
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With Responsibility, You Are Free

When you realize that only you are responsible for your misery or happiness, a certain power arises from within. The power of freedom. After the initial shock that there is no crutch, and you have to depend on your two broken legs to start walking again, you gain new power to try...

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