Can you be happy being a relationship with a narcisist? Yes, but not from the relationship.

How many narcissists are there in society?<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">The estimated percentage of observable narcissists is about 18%. Approximatively 1 in 6 people. </li><li class="ql-align-justify">Narcissism exists on a spectrum and can be observed in varying degrees in all individuals.</li></ul>Some professions tend to attract more narcissists, such as management or business, while others, like politics and social activism, are dominated by narcissists.

Narcissism in Society

No, narcissism is a psychological trait that cannot be created by technology. However, social media amplifies existing narcissism and turns a small-scale issue into a larger one. "Virtue signalling," for example, is a phenomenon fuelled mostly by communal narcissism.While most teenagers may appear narcissistic on social media, it is impossible to know for sure until they reach adulthood. The behavior of teenagers is not identical to that of narcissists.

Is Social Media Making Us Narcissists?

There is no numerical difference between men and women when it comes to being narcissists. But they are different in type.Men tend to be more grandiose, while women tend to be more vulnerable. They manifest differently, but they are equally damaging in a relationship.

Narcisism and Gender

Many successful individuals are narcissists. From politicians to business leaders, the qualities that make them successful often include a lack of empathy & a strong sense of self-importance. While this may lead to great accomplishments, their intelligence and charm can also make them terrible partners:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Narcissists are often driven by their own self-interest, rather than the greater good.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">They may achieve great success, but it can come at a cost to those around them.</li></ul>As the saying goes, "You can appreciate a narcissist in charge of a company, just don't marry one!" 😜

Narcissism and Success

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Grandiosity: An inflated sense of self-importance, believing they are superior</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Entitlement: A sense of deserving special treatment and privileges</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Lack of empathy: Inability to understand the feelings of others</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Need for admiration: Constant craving for praise & validation.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Hypersensitivity to criticism: Reacting poorly to any feedback or disagreement</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Charismatic but manipulative: Initially charming, but controlling</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Prone to gaslighting: Deliberately manipulating situations to make their target question their own reality</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Projecting blame: Shifting responsibility to others</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Un-accountable</li></ul>

Signs of a Narcisist

Grandiose Narcissism: They have big dreams and appear larger than life. Successful, but also tend to hold grudges and view others as obstacles to their success.Vulnerable Narcissism: They see themselves as victims and struggle with feelings of inadequacy. A grandiose narcissist can become vulnerable if they do not get their way.Malignant Narcissism: The most severe type, it involves manipulative and isolating behavior. They may show some remorse, but it is the stepping stone towards psychopathy.Communal Narcissism: They are fixated on being seen as kind and charitable.

Different Types of Narcissism

If you are trapped in a relationship with a narcisist the main practice is radical acceptance. You have to be aware of the trait of the other person and stop hoping you can change him or her.When the inevitable manipulations begin it's important to stop engaging. You can't productively argue with a narcisist. They will default to gaslighting:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Denial: The narcissist will deny things they clearly said or did, twisting the situation</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Rewriting history: Rewrite past events to fit their narrative, making you doubt your own memories.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Diminishing your feelings: Dismiss your emotions as "overreacting"</li></ul>

Dealing with a narcisist

How to know you are one?Self aware narcissist are very rare. A true narcisist will have very little self awareness of the effect they have on other people. Most would see their narcisism as a super power. A commitment to a goal or an ideal.

Are you a narcisist?

Dr. Ramani Durvasula defines narcissism as a collection of traits that center around an inflated sense of self-importance, a constant need for admiration, and a deep lack of empathy for others.However, Dr. Ramani also emphasizes the complexity of narcissism. She highlights that narcissists can be very charming and charismatic at first . It's the shift, where the manipulative and controlling behaviors emerge, that can be confusing.

What is Narcisism?

Narcisism is a one the main negative psychological traits. It's impirtant to be aware of it. 

1 in 6 people are narcissists, so what is a narcissist and how can you spot one?Dr Ramani Durvasula is a clinical psychologist, Professor of Psychology at California State University, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is also the author of books such as ‘Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist’, and ‘"Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility’.In this conversation Dr. Ramani and Steven discuss topics such as, whether your partner is a narcissist, the 4 types of narcissist, why up to 50% of famous people are narcissists, and whether narcissists are better in bed.(00:00) Intro(02:08) Why Dedicating Your Life To Studying Narcissism(03:10) The Cost Of Narcissism(06:07) How To Spot A Narcissist(12:27) How To Differentiate An Asshole From A Narcissist(15:19) Can You Cure Narcissism?(16:39) What Gender Tends To Be More Narcissistic(18:24) The Types Of Narcissism(25:07) How Many People Are Narcissists?(27:21) Is Social Media Fuelling More Narcissists(32:09) Where Does Narcissism Come From Genetics Environment(36:06) Narcissism Lives In A Spectrum(37:08) Are Narcissists More Successful(40:12) The Empathic CEOs Are Rare(43:04) Does Money Make You More Narcissistic?(47:03) How Do You Know If You Are A Narcissist(50:19) What People Get Attracted To Narcissist?(53:41) How To Know If My Partner Is A Narcissist(55:32) The Three Rs: How To Know If You're In A Negative Relationship(59:28) Pathological Manipulation(01:00:56) What's Projection?(01:04:20) Can They Take Feedback(01:05:55) Gaslighting, What Is It?(01:10:49) How To Deal With Being Gaslit(01:13:10) Do Narcissists Engage In Domestic Behaviour(01:15:17) What Should I Do If My Boss Is A Narcissist(01:17:31) Can You Get Out From A Narcissistic Person(01:21:32) Can You Be Happy In A Relationship With A Narcissist(01:23:08) What Is The Weak Point Of A Narcissist(01:24:44) Why Don't They Like Authentic People(01:25:51) Famous Narcissists(01:31:55) You Can Come Back From Narcissistic Abuse(01:34:04) Hardest Day Of Your LifeYou can order Dr Ramani’s most recent book, ‘It's Not You: How to Identify and Heal from NARCISSISTIC People’, here: https://amzn.to/42YI79KFollow Dr RamaniTwitter - https://bit.ly/3wF91raInstagram - https://bit.ly/48A634KWatch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/3kxINCANKsbFollow me:https://beacons.ai/diaryofaceoSponsors: Eightsleep: https://www.eightsleep.com/uk/steven/Uber: https://p.uber.com/creditstermsLinkedin Ads: https://www.linkedin.com/doac24 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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