Ask yourself two things:1) Who are they?2) Can you spend more time with them this year?When you look back at age 90, you’ll be so glad you did.

20% of the people in your life bring you 80% of your happiness.

The answers might surprise you.There are 6 groups of people with whom we spend time. (But the proportions shift dramatically as we age.)Here are 6 ways to minimize regret (and make the most of your 90 years).

Who do we spend the most time with in life?

Remember— these are just the average trends.There’s nothing more powerful than realizing… you can change this graph at any moment.

You Can Change Your Graphs

This continually trends upward, peaking after age 58.Takeaways:<ul><li>“Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery.” — H. Jackson Brown, Jr.</li></ul>Find the person who keeps bettering themselves and growing with you.

4. TIME WITH A PARTNER

Relatively, you get the least time with friends.Takeaways:<ul><li>Choose your friends wisely. You can only keep a few.</li><li>Make sure they bring out the best version of you.</li></ul>

2. TIME WITH FRIENDS

Between the ages of 20-56, your time with coworkers spikes tremendously. Takeaways:<ul><li>Don’t settle for a job you dislike. Try to “build a life that you don’t need a vacation from.”</li></ul>Set healthy boundaries with your time.

3. TIME WITH COWORKERS

This peaks while your kids are young, and then sharply declines.Takeaways:<ul><li>Try to be present for those first 18 years. (You may regret it later if you’re not.)</li><li>Whenever you feel frustrated with your kids, imagine a future when they’re grown and you don’t get to see them often. I call this the “Back-In-Time Method”</li></ul>

5. TIME WITH CHILDREN

This decreases sharply after the age 20.Takeaways:<ul><li>Try to live close to the people you love. If you can’t, then try to cherish your moments together.</li><li>When apart, call them and say all the things that you’ll wish you told them more.</li></ul>If you only see your parents once a year (and they’re in their 60s)... you might only see them 30 more times. Ever.

1. TIME WITH PARENTS

After 40, people spend an increasing amount of time alone.Takeaways:<ul><li>No surprise— you’ll spend the most time during your life solo. This becomes especially true after age 40.</li><li>Invest in self awareness and growth until you love your own company. Mindfulness helps with this btw.</li></ul>