You have a set of beliefs behind each one of your values. If your beliefs around your values are too general, they can prevent you from changing your people-pleasing habits.

For example, "I am always there for people who need me" is too general and could include every ...

1. Am I clear about my deepest desires and goals for my life?
2. Why do I want what I want? 
3. What else is possible for me this year?
4. What am I making the feelings mean, and how can I take action anyway?
5. Am I making excuses, like, “This is too hard,” or “I don’t feel...

No one wants to always be alone forever.

Smart people often feel misunderstood because they crave fewer but deeper connections.

Some people make themselves more of an outsider than they actually are — there’s always common ground to be found if you look for i...