The dark side of anticipation

The same parts of the human mind that allow people to imagine the future and anticipate happy events are also the ones that allow for worrying and imagining worst-case scenarios.

While these can be helpful in moderate doses, too much worrying can promote anxiety and despair.



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The sources of human happiness

Much of life's bliss is enveloped in expectation, in looking forward to something new. But as soon as that new something happens, we often turn our thoughts ahead to the next expected joy or novelty.

“Having things to look forward to is a major coping strategy. It helps us recover and adapt to stressors.”

This ability is what separates us from most animals.

Our frontal lobe is the one that helps us anticipate and make decisions, and that certainly is a higher-level function. Opposed to this is the emotional part of the brain (the “more primitive” lower brain) which at times can clash with and overwhelm the deliberative brain.

The human brain can concentrate only on a couple things at a time. So, when we have positive anticipatory things in our mind, there is less room for negative thoughts.

Especially in uncertain times, being too wrapped up in future plans and pleasures does not always bring happiness.

  • If you find that the thoughts you’re having about the future are not productive, anchoring yourself in the moment can be a good thing.
  • Inject life with small, short-term sources of happy anticipation. You can still anticipate positive events, but you may have to scale it back ( for example, plan a cocktail-hour call with a good friend in the following weekend).

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Happiness as a choice

Once you realize that happiness is predominantly an internal process, you will gradually understand that happiness is also a choice, and you will be able to transcend the limits of what it is that makes you happy.



Sadder and Sadder

There is a huge industry built on Happiness, ranging from Self-help Gurus to Yoga.

All data points south even after all this as people are getting sadder, not happier.

Constructive Criticism

However needed it may be, people often view criticism as hurtful and feel attacked. And that puts them on the defensive, meaning they won’t be able to truly absorb what’s being criticized.

That’s why constructive criticism is a helpful skill to develop when dealing with other people. Knowing how to do it drastically affects how the message is received.

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