Everyone has different needs, so there is no correct frequency for sex. If you want to have sex more or less often, talk to your partner and figure out what works for you both.

Elements that produce a healthy balance in relationships:

• Attention: The emotional needs of both partners are being met.
• Influence: Both partners can engage with and emotionally affect the other.
• Accommodation: Most decisions are made jointly.

One approach for recharging leads to balance and recovery. It suggests you use your downtime for something unrelated to your job that will refresh you. Think about it in terms of detachment, relaxation, autonomy, mastery, meaning, and affiliation.

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