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42 learnings from 42 years of life - ashton kutcher

About Relationships

  • Find friends that are loyal and generous
  • Be a loyal and generous friend
  • Life is who you travel with
  • Breaking up hurts every time
  • Giving becomes generous when it is uncomfortable
  • Getting married isn’t a goal but being married is
  • Being vulnerable opens relationships to possibility.

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42 learnings from 42 years of life - ashton kutcher

42 learnings from 42 years of life - ashton kutcher

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Ashton Kutcher on Hard Work

  • There is no substitute for hard work
  • The only substitute for working smart is working smarter
  • Maybes are usually procrastinated no’s.

Personal outlook

  • Kindness is more important than you think
  • Not everyone is going to like you and that’s ok
  • You are always better off striving to be the best you rather than be like someone else
  • Your authentic self is a perfect reflection of your experience
  • Laugh at yourself
  • Find even more opportunities to laugh with others
  • Do things that scare you and translate the fear into excitement
  • Avoid comparing your life to others.

About Relationships

  • Find friends that are loyal and generous
  • Be a loyal and generous friend
  • Life is who you travel with
  • Breaking up hurts every time
  • Giving becomes generous when it is uncomfortable
  • Getting married isn’t a goal but being married is
  • Being vulnerable opens relationships to possibility.

Business and Decision making

  • Hire slow and fire fast
  • Invest in people and hire people that you want to work for
  • Ideas are cheap execution is valuable
  • Make data-based decisions
  • If you don’t measure it you can’t improve it.

Homelife

  • Have fun with children but never make fun of them
  • Eat home-cooked meals whenever possible
  • Dance whenever given the floor and the right song
  • Re-invent your relationship with your parents once you become an adult
  • Brush your teeth
  • Drink more water than you want
  • Read good books
  • Find hobbies and practice them
  • Don’t neglect the value of sleep.

Health

  • Work out regularly and make the most of the time spent doing so
  • You can’t buy health and time slowly takes it from you. Savor it like it’s the only thing you got.
  • If your doctor isn’t coaching you when you are healthy, find a new doctor.

Mindset

  • Think in decades, not years
  • Forgive people, it’s easier than holding grudges
  • People do change. It’s just a slow process
  • Work toward leveling the playing field for others.

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