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Now with our social life in quarantine, calling a friend on a whim feels normal.
“How are you holding up?” Or, “How is quarantine treating you?” Or, “You guys ready to kill each other yet?”
These are very reasonably icebreakers right now, but also exhausting because none of us are doing exceptionally well.
Instead of triggering more anxiety by rehashing your quarantine situations, think about what you can do to make your friends feel good and how to be there for them from a distance.
Tell them they matter to you and that you miss them. Then keep the conversation focused on things that make you both feel good.
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