"Whose task is this? If it is someone else’s task, leave it to them."

You are not the sum of your past experiences. You are who you choose to be today.

<ul><li>Your past doesn't define you—your choices today do.</li><li>Stop using the past as an excuse for current problems.</li><li>Change begins when you take full control of the present moment.</li></ul>

You Are Not Your Past

The pursuit of superiority is the cause of all unhappiness

<ul><li>Not every problem is your task to solve.</li><li>Focus only on what you can control—leave others to handle their own tasks.</li><li>You gain freedom by letting go of the burden of others’ opinions and actions.</li></ul>

The Separation Of Tasks

<ul><li>Don't live for praise or approval from others.</li><li>Focus on contributing value to others, not being seen as "superior."</li><li>Contribution brings lasting fulfillment, while recognition is temporary.</li></ul>

Contribution Over Recognition

The courage to be happy also includes the courage to be disliked.

<ul><li>You don't need everyone to like you to be happy.</li><li>Living authentically means accepting that some people won’t agree with you.</li><li>True freedom comes from letting go of the fear of being disliked.</li></ul>

Freedom from the Need to Be Liked

<ul><li>Life is not a compettion — you don’t have to win or prove yourself to anyone.</li><li>Accept yourself as you are instead of chasing an "ideal self" created by others.Happiness is in contribution, not recognition — focus on giving, not gaining praise.</li></ul>

Final Thoughts: The Courage to Be Free

Freedom is being disliked by other people. It is proof that you are living according to your own principles

<ul><li>Don't believe it? Imagine being alone in the world with no one around—would you have any problems? No.</li><li>Problems in life come from conflicts with others, not from within yourself.</li><li>"All problems are interpersonal relationship problems." This means that how you deal with others is key to solving many of your challenges.</li></ul>

All Problems Are Interpersonal Relationship Problems

<ul><li>This book explains how to live freely without worrying about being disliked.</li><li>It introduces Adlerian psychology, which teaches that happiness comes from self-acceptance. </li></ul>

About The Book

No matter how much you may feel your problems are personal, they are inseparable from your interactions with others..

A single book can change your life. Already an enormous bestseller in Asia, with more than 3 million copies sold, The Courage to be Disliked demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of 19th century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, it follows an illuminating conversation between a philosopher and a young man. The philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own lives, free of the shackles of past experiences, doubts and the expectations of others. It's a way of thinking that's deeply liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves. The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already read and benefited from its wisdom. Now that The Courage to be Disliked has been published for the first time in English, so can you

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Ichiro KISHIMI Philosopher, Adlerian psychologist and translator of English and German languages. Born in 1956.M.A.in philosophy from Kyoto University. Director of the Japanese Society of Adlerian psychology. Former counselor at Maeda Clinic in Kyoto and has taught philosophy and ancient Greek at various institutions such as Kyoto University of Education and Nara Women's University. He presently teaches educational psychology and clinical psychology at Meiji School of Oriental Medicine in Suita, Osaka. Kishimi now has his own private counseling office in Kameoka, Kyoto, and devotes his time to giving lectures on Adlerian Psychology and child education.

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Fumitake Koga is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Fumitake Koga has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Fumitake Koga's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

ICHIRO KISHIMI & FUMITAKE KOGA

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