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About The Book

About The Book

  • This book explains how to live freely without worrying about being disliked.
  • It introduces Adlerian psychology, which teaches that happiness comes from self-acceptance.

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ICHIRO KISHIMI & FUMITAKE KOGA

The courage to be happy also includes the courage to be disliked.

ICHIRO KISHIMI & FUMITAKE KOGA

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The Separation Of Tasks

The Separation Of Tasks

  • Not every problem is your task to solve.
  • Focus only on what you can control—leave others to handle their own tasks.
  • You gain freedom by letting go of the burden of others’ opinions and actions.

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ICHIRO KISHIMI & FUMITAKE KOGA

"Whose task is this? If it is someone else’s task, leave it to them."

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Freedom from the Need to Be Liked

Freedom from the Need to Be Liked

  • You don't need everyone to like you to be happy.
  • Living authentically means accepting that some people won’t agree with you.
  • True freedom comes from letting go of the fear of being disliked.

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ICHIRO KISHIMI & FUMITAKE KOGA

Freedom is being disliked by other people. It is proof that you are living according to your own principles

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You Are Not Your Past

You Are Not Your Past

  • Your past doesn't define you—your choices today do.
  • Stop using the past as an excuse for current problems.
  • Change begins when you take full control of the present moment.

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ICHIRO KISHIMI & FUMITAKE KOGA

You are not the sum of your past experiences. You are who you choose to be today.

ICHIRO KISHIMI & FUMITAKE KOGA

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All Problems Are Interpersonal Relationship Problems

All Problems Are Interpersonal Relationship Problems

  • Don't believe it? Imagine being alone in the world with no one around—would you have any problems? No.
  • Problems in life come from conflicts with others, not from within yourself.
  • "All problems are interpersonal relationship problems." This means that how you deal with others is key to solving many of your challenges.

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ICHIRO KISHIMI & FUMITAKE KOGA

No matter how much you may feel your problems are personal, they are inseparable from your interactions with others..

ICHIRO KISHIMI & FUMITAKE KOGA

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Contribution Over Recognition

Contribution Over Recognition

  • Don't live for praise or approval from others.
  • Focus on contributing value to others, not being seen as "superior."
  • Contribution brings lasting fulfillment, while recognition is temporary.

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ICHIRO KISHIMI & FUMITAKE KOGA

The pursuit of superiority is the cause of all unhappiness

ICHIRO KISHIMI & FUMITAKE KOGA

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Final Thoughts: The Courage to Be Free

Final Thoughts: The Courage to Be Free

  • Life is not a compettion — you don’t have to win or prove yourself to anyone.
  • Accept yourself as you are instead of chasing an "ideal self" created by others.Happiness is in contribution, not recognition — focus on giving, not gaining praise.

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