When Others Hold Grudges

When others hold grudges against us, it often stems from their own struggles. They may cling to control, feel rejected, or resent losing access to unaligned parts of us. But their pain isn’t ours to fix. Even Jesus experienced this—He walked in perfect love and yet was misunderstood, rejected, and resented by those who wouldn’t let go of their sin or expectations.

Romans 12:17 reminds us, “Do not repay anyone evil for evil.” Emotional maturity means rising above, reflecting Christ’s love, and releasing the need to defend ourselves or fix others’ feelings.