Lessons Are Painful

Daily life experiences don’t always present themselves in dreams immediately. Sometimes an experience from life will filter through to a dream after several days or even a week. This delay is what’s known as dream lag. 

• Stress neurotransmitters in the brain are much less active during the REM stage of sleep even during dreams of traumatic experiences.
• This made some scientists to think that one purpose of dreaming is to take the edge off painful experiences to allow for psychological healing.
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The Stoics viewed an insult from a trusted friend or mentor as something that would benefit them, a real occasion for self-improvement that should be received with gratitude.

You should pay extra attention to the input of the people you respect, because they have some important insight...