Don’t Commit to Sides

... “my side”, “your side” and the truth. 

It is often helpful to take each party aside separately to find out their concerns, but over and above this try to find a neutral party who may have witnessed or seen the conflict from a different angle.

Speak with each party separately to gain their perspective on what the tension is all about. 

Make sure that along with any emotional information, you discuss specific facts or events that led up to or inflamed the situation.

Part I: Be Courted By All.

Play the Virgin Queen: Give them hope but never satisfaction.

• Put yourself in the middle between competing powers.
• Lure one side with the promise of your help; the other side, always wanting to o...