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5 Self-Destructive Habits of Chronically Unhappy People
Spending more time with other unhappy people
Negative people tend to attract more negative people. Unhappy people like to have others indulge them while they wallow in self-pity. While we all will feel sad at times, staying unhappy can do more harm than good.
What to do about it: Choose your company. Surround yourself with happy and optimistic people as much as possible. Spending time with people whose behavior is more positive will slowly train your brain to think and act like them.
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- They don't make excuses. They use failure as an opportunity to change for the better.
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- They savor the moment. They "stop to smell the roses".
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- They spend money on others. One reason is that it creates social connections.
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- They treat everyone with respect and kindness. Kindness, like happiness, is contagious.
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... you have 2 options:
- You can complain about it and hope it magically changes.
- You can set out to make a change.
If you are unhappy you owe it to yourself to make a change -- life is too short to delay any longer.
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... by acknowledging and expecting it can and will hurt.
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