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How making fun weekend plans can actually ruin your weekend
Nothing Is Better Than Something
Planning ahead and filling our calendars with various social activities that are supposedly for fun, leisure, and pleasure can make them seem like a chore. Simple, relaxing activities turn into work if we plan and schedule them like an obligation, as it will take the same type of effort as making a report or attending a business meeting.
Being impromptu and spontaneous in one’s leisure activities is what makes them enjoyable.
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Over-scheduling doesn’t work
it leads us to starve for more time to do everything we need to do. As a consequence, we begin to:
- Hate the things that we used to enjoy.
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Scheduling fewer tasks
Also, scheduling back-to-back items in your calendar doesn’t account for the unexpected. Emergencies will always pop up and if your calendar is packed too tightly, you won’t have the flexibility to handle a crisis without completely trashing your calendar for the foreseeable future.
Say “yes” to less
Instead of accepting every invite or request for help, be more selective so that you’re not spreading yourself too thin.
The easiest way to do this is by only saying “yes” to the things that excite you or that serve a purpose.
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Hobbies for relaxation
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The“fantasy self”
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If you want to try something totally new, start small. To hold yourself accountable, enlist friends in the effort.
Hobbies and side hustles
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Cal Newport on better managing time
- To-Do lists are useless. Schedule everything.
- Assume you’re going home at 5:30, then plan your day backwards. ...