Most of the essential activities in our life are infinite games, meaning that to win means you have to keep on playing. For instance, health isn't over when you've reached your weight-loss goal.
If you can keep going, you haven't lost.
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While it's true that life is better when you have friends, money and status, that lifestyle is never satisfied. It always demands more.
Instead of striving to attain some ideal of life, organise your energy around pursuits that matter. Engaging in meaningful activities that help you and others are more satisfying.
Thinking up a new life is not enough unless you also pair it with action. It is important then to realize that most of our actions happen without thinking. We do the same pattern endlessly, and those actions create our lives.
Real change seldom comes from a single exertion. It comes from committing yourself to specific daily habits until the habit feels comfortable.
The quality of your life is mostly determined by what you pay attention to. But most of what grasps our attention isn't good for us, such as anxiety and anger about things we cannot control.
Like a prudent gardener, you can choose what you let grow in your mind by watching the conversations you have, the books you read and the news you follow.
Setting difficult, ambitious goals and committing to them has a much bigger impact than people realise.
Edwin Lock, who pioneered the experimental study of goal-setting, found two things:
For most of recorded history, most of the roads to worldly success came at other people's expense.
In modern time, the most prominent way we have become rich isn't through plunder but through invention and service. We improve our lives mostly by making life better for others.
Growth is dominated by two trends:
Understanding what kind of growth you're dealing with prepares you for progress.
In the novel, The Count of Monte Cristo, two people are unfairly imprisoned. One spends his time brooding, raging and attempting suicide. The other spent his captivity improving his mind by practising languages, developing tools, and reconstructing manuscripts from memory.
Freedom is possessed by varying degrees by different people. Your life situation could be constrained, or you may only have choices you don't like very much. But increasing your options is part of a good life.
Steve Jobs stated that life is not fixed and ready-made for you to live in. You can change and influence the world and leave your mark on it.
Most of us will have a far less impact than Steve Jobs did. But in the smaller sphere of our lives, there is enough flexibility if we understand that life can be changed.
Exposure therapy works to reduce an irrational fear by exposing you to the fear in a safe environment.
Public speaking, talking to strangers, or taking tests can create a paralyzing anxiety. Knowing how to deal with it makes a big difference.
This is by far my favorite of all the journaling ideas on this list. It’s also a crucial part of my morning routine, and something I’ve been doing daily for over five years. Every morning, I wake up, grab my journal, and re-write my goals. This is a daily practice for me—I’ll never miss a day for the rest of my life.
LIfe is easy. The way you THINK determines the outcome of your life.
Want to build a big company? Change people’s lives? Make a contribution to the world? Earn a million bucks?
Never let anything hold you back when you think of ideas.
So what? You might as well aim high. You’ve got nothing to lose. Just make sure you act small. Put in the work and stay practical. All you need is one big win anyway. But when you aim low, the outcome is always low.
Individuals often seem defined by their need to belong to a certain group: family, school, political party. This can be explained by the fact that it is seldom easier to defend a viewpoint on your own while having the support of an entire group provides you with all the necessary confidence.
However, the main drawback consists of becoming so easily manipulated, that often one is not even aware of it.
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