12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson: Summary, Notes, and Lessons - Nat Eliason
We evolved and always will be in a dominance hierarchy. The part of our brain that keeps track of our position in the hierarchy is therefore ancient and fundamental, modulating our emotions, thoughts and actions. That’s why people size each other up. Presenting present yourself as defeated, leads to people treating you as such.
To stand up straight with your shoulders back is to voluntarily turn the chaos of potential into the realities of habitable order and to make yourself worthy of being well treated. It means to shoulder and accept the burden of self-conscious vulnerability.
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"The first step, perhaps, is to take stock. Who are you? When you buy a house and prepare to live in it, you hire an inspector to list all its faults–as it is, in reality, now, not as you wish it could be. You’ll even pay him for the bad news. You need to know. You need to discover the home’s hidden flaws. You need to know whether they are cosmetic imperfections or structural inadequacies. You need to know because you can’t fix something if you don’t know it’s broken–and you’re broken. You need an inspector. The internal critic–it could play that role, if you could get it on track; if you and it could cooperate."
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