Common culprits that stand in the way of your happiness

Common culprits that stand in the way of your happiness

Happiness has a wide range of benefits, including making us healthier, improving relationships, increasing productivity, and helping us make more positive contributions to society.

There are five common culprits that stand in the way of your happiness.

  • Self-defeating self talk
  • Avoiding meaningful connections
  • Comparing yourself to others
  • Lack of gratitude
  • Fear.
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It can keep us from doing things that can hurt us, but it can also paralyse and prevent us from making our lives better.

We can overcome fear by replacing it with something else. For example, if you are fearful of starting your own business, challenge the fear by:

  • Accomplishing one small, achievable project each day, such as finding a mentor.
  • Get creative or learn a new skill.
  • Surround yourself with supporters.
  • Recognise the real value of your life and abilities.

Most people have an inner critic that judges them, doubts them, belittles them, and always telling them they are not good enough.

You are able to stop beating yourself up.

  • Start paying attention to your thoughts. It will help you notice when your inner critic is busy.
  • Separate the critic from your own identity. You can even give your critic a name.
  • Tell your critic to go away.
  • Replace the critic by noticing positive qualities.

We often pay more attention to what we don't have instead of what we do have. Studies found that giving thanks makes us happier. People that show gratitude are more optimistic, feel better about their lives and exercise more. It also can improve relationships.

Every evening, reflect and write down everything that you're grateful for.

Connection with other people and the feeling of belonging are essential for a happy life.

Research shows:

  • People with stronger social connections tend to live longer.
  • Marriage decreases the risk of depression, suicide, and substance abuse.
  • Mental health and relationships are vital to happiness.

If you struggle to network, start networking online, or team up with an extrovert, adopt outgoing traits, and practice your elevator pitch.

Mark Twain wrote, "comparison is the death of joy."

While it is normal to compare yourself with others, it's also a waste of time. Your comparison could be a wrongful assessment as you may be comparing yourself to someone who isn't as happy as they pretend to be.

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10 Behaviors for Happiness
  1. Let go of the need for specific outcomes
  2. Define your own success and happiness
  3. Fully commit to the things that make you happy
  4. Be grateful for what you already have
  5. Say “I love you” more
  6. Have hobbies directed toward your dreams
  7. Don’t postpone what you can do now
  8. Do something every day that terrifies you
  9. Put “the Important” before “the Urgent”
  10. Forgo the good to pursue the best.



Spend Time Outdoors

Spending time outside of your apartment can lift your mood. 

If you are unable to get outside, add greenery to your space, for some plant therapy.

Why expectations hurt

We often fantasize about the day when things will finally go our way. We have highly positive expectations of the future, but once what we expected did not match our reality we feel hurt and lost.

Expectations frustrate us when we idealize a certain future but our actions and our behavior is not in accordance to what we were expecting for. Oftentimes our behavior falls short of our standards.

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