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Many people go through life desiring everyone to like them - not just a boss or a co-worker but strangers - the customer-service reps, cab drivers, or people in the grocery store.
Just telling yourself, it doesn't matter if the others like you is bad advice. You know it doesn't affect your life on an intellectual level whether this stranger thinks you're wonderful, but that doesn't stop you from wanting them to.
The inkblot consists of patterns where you have to explain what you see. What a person sees says more about them than it does about the inkblot.
The same thing is true interpersonally. The qualities that make you likeable to one person will make you unlikable to another person. Research shows that people like other people with personalities most similar to their own. You can't control the preferences of the other person.
Put yourself in the context of the whole world. Imagine spending a week interacting with all 7 billion people on the planet. Then consider what percentage of those people would say that you're generally a likeable person.
For example, thinking that around 70 percent of people would like you means 30 percent wouldn't. That means out of 7 billion people, 2.1 billion wouldn't like you. That is a lot of people. You're going to be disliked. That means shrug it off and move on.
Many factors influence how someone might feel about you.
Someone might be having a bad day, or they may be distracted by their workload. All are aspects beyond your control. The factors may influence how people respond to you, but they're not about you.
When someone comes across as neither obviously friendly nor overly hostile, most people will find it difficult to read them accurately.
That means many neutral encounters end up being perceived as negative ones. People who are sensitive to rejection may assume other people will shut them out. Recognizing our own skewed perception of the world is a first step toward solving it. With classic cognitive behavioural therapy techniques, we can learn to reinterpret other people's behaviour.
We all have some problematic thought patterns that we are unaware of.
The key is to figure out which ones apply to you. Consider which assumptions do you have about yourself that skewed your perception of what happened.
To escape the chaos of our daily lives, many of us try to meditate, mistaking it for another activity, something we have to do.
The concept of sitting still is doing absolutely nothing, a concept alien to many of us with a mindset of always doing stuff.
Stillness has a strength, a calming effect on us and our surroundings. Our being still slows down the world around us, allowing us to focus and concentrate on the essential.
To be still takes courage in this frenetic, chaotic world where everyone is always in a rush. Being still allows us to find the strength from within, rather than outside.
This act of inaction is not natural to us, as we are never taught to just be, but to always do something.
But just by pausing, closing your eyes and sitting still for a minute and just focusing on your breath as it happens is the antidote to all the stress that the noise creates.
Smaller than a fingernail, Microchips are integrated circuits providing computer circuitry that is one of the most important inventions of the human race.
A microchip is basically an interconnected circuitry of transistors and resistors etched on semiconducting material like germanium or silicon. The Microprocessor of a computer, and the computer memory, both contain microchip circuits. Most modern gadgets contain this piece of technology.
Built on multiple layers, microchip makers use a process called photolithography using chemicals and light. It is generally covered with a thin layer of aluminium.
Apart from computers and laptops, Smartphones are the most common electronic devices carrying a whole lot of chips. Television sets, GPS devices, ID cards and Air Force missiles use this technology.
The 18th-century American preacher Jonathan Edwards defined gratitude as a natural affection felt toward another person who has benefited us.
Gratitude is generally interpersonal and can induce positive feelings even toward our foes.
Positive psychologists have credited gratitude (both personal and interpersonal) with:
Tokyo and Sapporo, Japan, had been originally set to host the 1940 Olympic Games (summer and winter), making them the first non-Western cities selected to host. But the war between Japan and China started in July 1937 and made the Japanese government decide to lose their right to host the Games.
The new hosts: Helsinki, Finland (for summer) and Garmisch-Partenkirchen Germany (for winter). But the outbreak of World War II caused the events to be canceled entirely, after the Nazi invasion of Poland in September 1939. The same happened with the 1944’s Summer Olympics in London and Winter Games in Cortina d’Ampezzo, Italy.
The Berlin Games were canceled due to the outbreak of World War I in July 1914.
Organizers initially thought that the war would be over by Christmas but an armistice was not reached until November 1918.
The postponement of Tokyo 2020 was not a decision taken lightly: it came after the pressure to cancel or delay the event due to the risks of the new virus.
The financial blow of canceling the games will be substantial for Japan, which has already invested at least $12.6 billion into the 2020 Olympics; by some estimates, it would reduce Japan’s annual GDP growth by 1.4%.