True freedom is being without anxiety about imperfection.

Why should your life be destroyed by the easy criticism of those 
who do not know you or care about you?”

Your true nature is not something 
you can obtain by searching for it.
 It will reveal itself to you when the mind grows quiet.

Clinging to a particular negative thought
 can even lead to depression. Be careful not to get caught up in your thoughts.

Your life is difficult not because the past is holding you back, but because you keep thinking about the past and lingering there. Rather than haggling with your past, let it be, so that it can flow like a river. Your true self is not the river of memory but the one who stands beside the river, quietly observing its flow.

If you’re sad, it’s okay to acknowledge your sadness. If you have pain that leaves you at a loss, it’s okay to talk about your pain. The reason we have difficulties is that we are unable to accept the things that cannot be changed. Let them be and see what happens.

Acceptance

“Things are so hard for you right now, but you will be okay no
 matter what.”

Emotions are like uninvited guests. They come whenever they want to, and leave once you acknowledge their presence. Although emotions are born inside of you, don’t assume that they belong to you. That is why they rarely listen to you.

Do you often say to your loved one, “If you love me, can’t you change for me?”That is not love. Love’s true face is acceptance and freedom, not restriction and control.

In many things in life, the good is mixed with the bad. If you throw away the whole thing because you dislike the bad part, you’ll also throw away much that is good.

Even though it seems like the night will go on forever, at a certain point the days start getting longer. Even though it seems suffering will continue without end, at a certain point it will ease up, or we will learn to accept it. Meanwhile, we will learn a valuable lesson from that suffering.Nothing in this world lasts forever, not even our suffering.

“Even if someone I helped in the past, or I expected greatness from, causes me grave harm, may I consider him my greatest teacher.”

The voice that criticizes and berates me is much louder than the one that cheers me on. When times are tough, that cheering voice can get drowned out. But keep listening. After your critics have moved on to criticize someone else, you will start to hear those who have stayed behind, steadily cheering you on.

Cheers Will Win Critics, A Day

People often think that their way of doing things is the right way. If they see something being done in a way that is not their own, they jump in to tell others they’re doing it wrong.But other people’s ways are not wrong, only unfamiliar to you.Try doing something in a way that is different from your way. A new world will open up to you

It's Not Wrong, Just Different

When you care for yourself first, the world will also find you worthy of care.

It’s okay that you have flaws. How could our lives be as clean and white as a blank sheet of paper? Life naturally takes a toll on our bodies, our minds, and our relationships. Rather than choosing a life in which you do nothing for fear of making a mistake, choose a life that improves through failure and pain. And shout out loud to your struggling self, “I love you so much.”

Don’t judge people based on how they appear, as they may have difficulties that nobody can see.

“If you hear a voice within you say, ‘You cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”

Don’t think you are lovable only when you succeed at what the world demands. You are already worthy of love.

Even products labeled “limited edition” are made on a production line with hundreds that are exactly the same. But there is only one you in the world. Please cherish the unique individual that is you.

Susan Cain, New York Times bestselling author of Quiet: "The world could surely use a little more love, a little more compassion, and a little more wisdom. In Love for Imperfect Things, Haemin Sunim shows us how to cultivate all three, and to find beauty in the most imperfect of things--including your very own self." A #1 internationally bestselling book of spiritual wisdom about learning to love ourselves, with all our imperfections, by the Buddhist author of The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down Hearing the words "be good to yourself first, then to others" was like being struck by lightning. Many of us respond to the pressures of life by turning inward and ignoring problems, sometimes resulting in anxiety or depression. Others react by working harder at the office, at school, or at home, hoping that this will make ourselves and the people we love happier. But what if being yourself is enough? Just as we are advised on airplanes to take our own oxygen first before helping others, we must first be at peace with ourselves before we can be at peace with the world around us. In this beautiful follow-up to his international bestseller The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, Zen Buddhist monk Haemin Sunim turns his trademark wisdom to the art of self-care, arguing that only by accepting yourself--and the flaws that make you who you are--can you have compassionate and fulfilling relationships with your partner, your family, and your friends. With more than thirty-five full-color illustrations, Love for Imperfect Things will appeal to both your eyes and your heart, and help you learn to love yourself, your life, and everyone in it. When you care for yourself first, the world begins to find you worthy of care.

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Philosophy

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Motivation & Inspiration

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Mental Health

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Love & Relationships

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Books

Zen Buddhist teacher, bestselling author & founder of the School for Broken Hearts in Seoul.Born in South Korea and educated at Berkeley, Harvard, and Princeton, he received formal monastic training from Haein monastery, South Korea and taught Asian religions at Hampshire College in Massachusetts for seven years.He is one of the most influential Zen monks in the world, with over 1.5 million followers on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. His first book, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down has been translated into more than 35 different languages and sold over four million copies.His second book, Love for Imperfect Things was the number one bestseller of the year 2016 in South Korea and became available in multiple languages in 2019.

Haemin Sunim

Love for Imperfect Things

Why always me? Why are things so bad for me all the time? When happiness passes through me, sadness captures it. When the sun shines on me, darkness engulfs it. When everything seems to be all right, something goes against it.

How do you un-love someone?How do you forget the way they walked, laughed and cried?How do you turn off the ache in your heart at the memory of them?How do you walk away knowing that they never felt anything for you?Do you perform a ritual of pretence daily?Do you cry at the beauty you've lost?Do you call yourself a fool?Do you look in the mirror and ask why?Why did you not love me?Why did you not see me?Why did you just want to be friends? Why does it hurt still?

Sia: Do you want me to join a gym?'Rithvik: 'No, there's no need for that. You can exercise occasionally to stay fit, but don't lose weight for me. I have no problem because I love you the way you are. You may not have an amazing figure or a flat stomach, but I love you and I don't want you to change.'

Find A Person Who Loves You The Way You Are

It's painful to know that you are the only one who's in love while the other person hardly cares.I got up in the middle of the night. All I could bear was a loud cry coming from someone who was hurt, the cry was familiar to me. I searched for that someone who was crying so loudly. I looked around the room even though it was dark. I tried to calm myself but the voices were so loud that I could really feel the pain. There was no one, until I stood in front of the mirror. I could see my reflection, those tears and the pain.

Just because we don't talk any more doesn't mean that I have forgotten about you. It doesn't mean that I no longer care. The truth is that I still do. I did my best to check up on you, to see how you were doing. But every time I felt the urge to talk to you, I remembered that we were strangers and that you didn't want me in your life."

Isn't it weird how you can go from being everything to nothing because of one misunderstanding?

I'll be there for you until you find someone better, which I am sure you won't ever.

Should I smile because we are friends or cry because we are just friends? Blessed with the gift of the gab, Apurv manages to charm everyone in his company. Like most teenage boys, he longs for a girlfriend but hasn't found one yet. In another part of town, beautiful and popular Amyra leads a flawless life. All the boys desire her and all the girls want to be her best friend. A chance encounter with Amyra in the college canteen makes Apurv fall head over heels for her. But it isn't long before he realizes that she is not interested in him, at least not in the way he wants her to be. Can Apurv get Amyra to change her mind before it's too late, or will he be friend-zoned forever?

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

Sudeep Nagarkar

She Friend-Zoned My Love

It’s not the same for everyone, you see. It took you a few seconds to let go, but it’s taking me a lifetime.

The flowers you gave me are kept between the Pages of book I've loved all my life..i pretend not to love you anymore, but catch myself opening the book every once in a while..

Just because your path is unclear doesn’t 
mean light doesn’t exist. It doesn’t mean the journey isn’t beautiful or worth it.

Your heart becomes the heaviest thing to carry when it’s over flowing with love for someone who always leaves you feeling unworthy of love

you’re everywhere around me and
 within me—even though you’re not in love with me anymore.

Love is not a trophy
 you’ve to fight for but a gift someone wants to give you everyday without you having to ask them for it

You’re staying with them because you’re scared of being heartbroken, but tell me, aren’t they already breaking your heart every day?

I went to a store, and a signboard said, “If you break something, consider it yours.” Things have a way of belonging to you, even after you break them. The way I still belong to you, despite everything.

You said you loved me, but you did nothing to make me stay. I told you what others did to my heart, and you left me feeling exactly the same way.

It hurts me to think that it didn’t hurt you when I left. That it, in fact, made you feel better. That my presence in people’s lives is a weight on their shoulders, and no amount of love from my end can ever change that.

My heart was the snow you buried your footprints in. You’re always with me even when you aren’t.

The world can refuse to love you, but may you never stop being the first person who makes you smile ☺️

I have bettered the art of leaving people, but I'm yet to learn how to take my heart with me.

You serve your heart to them on a platter once again, hoping they’ve changed,
but the only thing that changes is the way they choose to crush your heart. The
 method changes, but the pain remains.

I’ll sit down one day and not use a semicolon to talk about us. I’d use a fullstop. I’d accept that there’s nothing more left to our story.

You 
cannot see my heart break, but that doesn’t mean I’m all right.

The person you’re running towards has run out of love for you. You can run all
 you want, but that version of them doesn’t exist anymore. And I know it hurts, but it’s time for you to stop loving them, too.

Moving on isn’t about learning to love someone else. It’s about going about your day without thinking if that person is thinking about you.

Dear reader,I hope this book feels like a warm hug to you. I wrote this book for the ones who feel everything too deeply. You’re right, I wrote this book for you.This book was meant to find you if you’ve ever loved someone who didn’t love you back, if you’ve ever over-invested in the wrong people or if you have a hard time letting go.I Don’t Love You Anymore is a book that’ll feel like home to you. I promise it’ll hold you gently on your worst days.Love, Rithvik

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Personal Development

Rithvik Singh

I Don't Love You Anymore

Close the window that hurts you, no matter how beautiful the view is

mindfulness

Mindfulness

LIVE your LIFE as you LIKE

There is no point in running so hard,leaving your soul behind

Do what you love 

Despite his negative reputation, Severus Snape from Harry Potter is a hero in his own right because of:• His unwavering love and loyalty towards his childhood friend, Lily.• His constant protection and care for her, and her son even in secret.• The sincerity and depth of his love for her, even after her death.One of Snape's most defining moments is when he reveals his true feelings for Lily, saying, "always." This shows that he will always remember her, even after she gets married to another person and even after her death, making him a truly genuine and complex character.﻿

1. Severus Snape

- A loyal friend who showed great love and sacrifice for his loved ones- His unwavering loyalty and love for friends was admirable. -He was a true well-wisher, even at the cost of his own life.

2. Sirus Black

Dobby was a loyal house-elf who always followed his master's orders, even if they were cruel. - Despite this, he yearned for true love and freedom in his heart. - In the end, he made the ultimate sacrifice for the one he truly cared for. 💔

3.Dobby, The loyal house-elf:

- Hagrid is a loyal and supportive friend.- He is kind and protective towards his loved ones.- Hagrid's passion for animals is truly inspiring.- His whole heart belongs to magical creatures like dragons, unicorns, and hippogriffs.He is often seen in Hogwarts with his half-giant stature, and his love for animals is pure and admirable.Hagrid never keeps secrets, which became an advantage for Harry and his friends and always stands up for what's right. He is a wonderful friend to have by your side.

4.Hagrid:

What We Can Learn from Harry PotterLesson 1: True Friendship -Harry Potter is a true friend who is willing to sacrifice anything for his loved ones. -His friendship with Ron and Hermione teaches us the importance of loyalty and selflessness.Lesson 2: Patience and Emotional Stability-Throughout his journey, Harry faces numerous challenges and setbacks.-However, he remains patient and emotionally stable, which helps him overcome these obstacles.

5.Harry Potter:

List of my most favourite characters in Harry Potter.

Harry Potter 

If there is anything that can be crueler than death, it's nurturing false hope in your heart just to see them crushing every piece of you at the end.

Taylor Swift said once, "The scary news is, you are on your own now. But the cool news is, you are on your own now" The fear of loneliness has been injected into our minds since we were kids. We have learned that the kid who eats, & sits alone, and has no friends is pathetic. In every book/movie, the kid with no friends is always featured as a weak character who needs to be saved. No one wants to be seen as a 'weirdo' hence, our dread of being alone. We don't want people to think of us as unwanted or not fitting in with the cool kids. We don't want people to think that no one chose us. So what do we do? We start becoming like an ideal version of whom everyone loves.

Renuka Gavrani

The Art of Being Alone

He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.

How To Live

A prominent Viennese psychiatrist before the war, Viktor Frankl was uniquely able to observe the way that he and other inmates coped with the experience of being in Auschwitz. He noticed that it was the men who comforted others and who gave away their last piece of bread who survived the longest - and who offered proof that everything can be taken away from us except the ability to choose our attitude in any given set of circumstances. The sort of person the prisoner became was the result of an inner decision and not of camp influences alone. Only those who allowed their inner hold on their moral and spiritual selves to subside eventually fell victim to the camp's degenerating influence - while those who made a victory of those experiences turned them into an inner triumph. Frankl came to believe that man's deepest desire is to search for meaning and purpose. This outstanding work offers us all a way to transcend suffering and find significance in the art of living.

Viktor Emil Frankl M.D., Ph.D., was an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist as well as a Holocaust survivor. Frankl was the founder of logotherapy, which is a form of Existential Analysis, the "Third Viennese School" of psychotherapy.His book Man's Search for Meaning (first published under a different title in 1959: From Death-Camp to Existentialism. Originally published in 1946 as Ein Psycholog erlebt das Konzentrationslager) chronicles his experiences as a concentration camp inmate and describes his psychotherapeutic method of finding meaning in all forms of existence, even the most sordid ones, and thus a reason to continue living. He was one of the key figures in existential therapy.

Viktor E. Frankl

Man's Search for Meaning

Man gets dependent on what he chooses, God never decide the "karma" of human. It's the human that choose their own preferred activities.There is NOTHING you HAVE TO DO. Everything you do, you CHOOSE TO DO.

Karma

Bhagavad Gita Simplified In Simple English The Bhagavad Gita is a scripture that many people WANT to read, but don't have the time. It's long, complicated, and can be extremely difficult to understand. The good news is that you CAN absorb every life lesson that lies within, quickly and easily! Bhagavad Gita Made Very Easy is different from anything else on the market, and all 18 chapters and 700 scriptures can be completed in no time at all! Are you ready to unlock permanent happiness? Mind control? Freedom? Direction? Motivation? Faith? Peace of mind? This is just the beginning!Remember - it's important to read the whole book from start to finish for uncompromised insight. Each chapter has its own gift to give. The thing is, The Bhagavad Gita is NOT just a book. It's a life-changing conversation between Lord Krishna and Arjun before the battle unfolds. Are you ready to uncover this secret knowledge - with incredible speed and ease?Discover what your goals in life should be, and change your outlook on life like never before, with Bhagavad Gita Made Very Easy!Cordially Yours,Kishan Barai (Author)

Kishan Barai

Bhagavad Gita Made Very Easy

If You Don’t Prioritize Your Life, Someone Else Will

Saying 'NO' to people is one of the most important skills you can develop.It frees you to pursue your own interests, both personal and professional.

For People Pleasers

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Love for Imperfect Things

She Friend-Zoned My Love

I Don't Love You Anymore

LIVE your LIFE as you LIKE

Do what you love

Aarthi Muthulakshmi