How often do you catch yourself fantasizing about a scenario when you finally buy that dream car, or when you finally visit the place you always wanted to go. If you are like me then the answer might be not very often. We become so immersed in this fantasy that we forget that it is simply a projection of yourself in the future. What makes this so alluring is the fact that you can vicariously enjoy the process of watching yourself living the best life you are able to live.

The Pursuit of Happiness

When you are involved in crafting this perfect life for yourself, you remain oblivious to the fact that you are applying a condition to happiness. You tell yourself "I will finally be happy when I have X or when I have done Y". By doing this you are subconsciously telling yourself that you cannot be happy now.

You also become oblivious to the fact that all you can experience is the present moment, you might think that you will be happy in the future and let's say you reach your fantasy, even then you won't be happy. Because you are simply unable to become content in the present. You will experience a fleeting moment of bliss and then you become accustomed to it, then you will find something new to project your happiness into.

I am struggling with this tendency as well and so far am not sure what I can do to be happy. If I have no idea what the present moment feels like then how can I be happy in the present moment?

Luckily, you can train your mind to reside in the present moment through meditation. Learning to meditate is a tedious and effortful process and I would rather take the easy way out by mindlessly consuming rather than learning to become mindful. But what meditation provides is a way to understand the mechanism of the mind. Only when you understand how the mind works, you can make it work for you.

Training The Mind

The problem as of right now is that the mind is absolutely wild and untamed. It makes projections based on what it is accustomed to and that is leading to a life of dissatisfaction. So if I want to live a meaningful life and learn to become happy in the moment, then I must have some form of mastery over my mind, and meditation is a tool that provides me with the necessary resource for this grand feat.

This helps me stay committed to the practice

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Mindfulness

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Meditation

Why does happiness last only a moment and leaves a bittersweet aftertaste?

This is the first time I am doing this so it is not going to have any definite structure. One thing I want to accomplish from deep stash is I want to be able to articulate the things I learn in a more elaborate and systematic way. It has been a couple of years since I started to read books, and I have learned many things during the last years. I don't know what exactly I am trying to say in this article but it doesn't matter because no-one is going to read it anyway, in some sense I am doing this for myself.

On Reading

I just finished reading the book Power of touch and in a way this book has changed my perception of communication. Prior to encountering this book , touch was a subject of taboo for me and I would not have imagined myself talking about touching. Phillis K Davis talks about this term "skin hunger" and how our bodies have a necessity for touching. The sad thing about our society is that we have been deprived of this basic need for too long because touch is regarded synonymously with sexual intercourse.

The Power Of Touch

Now that I just finished writing 2 new ideas I feel like I have much more to say, yet I don't know how to articulate what exactly it is that I am trying to convey.

There's more

I really resonate with this idea that I picked up from "The Power Book" by Rose Herceg. She talks about it is the really small things that we don't give much attention to that really determines our worth. It is kind of scary because we don't give much conscious thoughts to the small things we do like making your bed after getting up, but it is also empowering in some sense because it doesn't take much effort in doing these small things. It gives me hope because I don't have to make drastic life altering decisions to have high status, I simply have to start small and be consistent with it.

Its the small things that make you look really small

it is a start towards living a much richer intellectual life.

Were you raised in a "non-touching" atmosphere? Is your "inner hunger" really a yearning for touch? Do you know what your touching "taboos" are? Do you wish you could feel more comfortable touching others or being touched? Are you fulfilling your loved one's need for touch? Would you like to learn how touching influences behavior and how it could enrich your daily? In the revised edition of her exciting book, The Power of Touch, Phyllis K. Davis explores the human need to touch and be touched--and how America's cultural taboos have made us a touch-starved nation. Phyllis shares important insights on physical contact, not only as a biological need, but also as a language that communicates love more powerfully than words.Thought provoking and inspiring, The Power of Touch examines the catastrophic effects on individuals not nurtured by loving touch. People deprived of this kind of touch often exhibit compulsive overeating, restlessness, drug abuse, promiscuity, and workaholism. Even more shocking--singles deprived of touch have a death rate five times higher than their married counterparts. Phyllis also refutes the myth that picking up crying infants spoils them and stresses the role being physically nurtured as babies plays in becoming well-adjusted adults. To help the reader learn how to bring more touch into their lives, Phyllis includes a chapter of touching exercises and ideas. "Without touch, a baby dies, the human heart aches, and the soul withers. Touch is communication on the most basic level: The Power of Touch is about the language of love spoken through physical contact. The need for touch is a necessity throughout our lives, from birth to death, which serves to sustain us emotionally and physically. She discusses how touch can improve relationships of all kinds-parent/child, man/woman, friend/friend-help heal the body, and open the heart to a deeper love. She provides insights into the role of touch in infant health, sexual satisfaction, well-being of the elderly, and she suggests a number of activities and exercises that will make touching a delightful and valuable tool in your life. In this wonderful book, author Phyllis K. Davis teaches you about the role of touch in healing, infant care, raising children, developmental psychology, lovemaking, old age, and friendship. The message is simple: Open your heart, reach out, and touch those you care about. If you are a friend, parent, massage therapist, teacher, lover, grandparent, caretaker, health-care professional--or just a compassionate human being--you will learn how even the briefest and simplest forms of touch influence your behavior and enrich the lives of those sharing your world.

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Personal Development

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Books

Were you raised in a "non-touching" atmosphere? Is your "inner hunger" really a yearning for touch? Do you know what your touching "taboos" are? Do you wish you could feel more comfortable touching others or being touched? Are you fulfilling your loved one's need for touch? Would you like to learn how touching influences behavior and how it could enrich your daily? In the revised edition of her exciting book, The Power of Touch, Phyllis K. Davis explores the human need to touch and be touched--and how America's cultural taboos have made us a touch-starved nation. Phyllis shares important insights on physical contact, not only as a biological need, but also as a language that communicates love more powerfully than words.Thought provoking and inspiring, The Power of Touch examines the catastrophic effects on individuals not nurtured by loving touch. People deprived of this kind of touch often exhibit compulsive overeating, restlessness, drug abuse, promiscuity, and workaholism. Even more shocking--singles deprived of touch have a death rate five times higher than their married counterparts. Phyllis also refutes the myth that picking up crying infants spoils them and stresses the role being physically nurtured as babies plays in becoming well-adjusted adults. To help the reader learn how to bring more touch into their lives, Phyllis includes a chapter of touching exercises and ideas. "Without touch, a baby dies, the human heart aches, and the soul withers. Touch is communication on the most basic level: The Power of Touch is about the language of love spoken through physical contact. The need for touch is a necessity throughout our lives, from birth to death, which serves to sustain us emotionally and physically. She discusses how touch can improve relationships of all kinds-parent/child, man/woman, friend/friend-help heal the body, and open the heart to a deeper love. She provides insights into the role of touch in infant health, sexual satisfaction, well-being of the elderly, and she suggests a number of activities and exercises that will make touching a delightful and valuable tool in your life. In this wonderful book, author Phyllis K. Davis teaches you about the role of touch in healing, infant care, raising children, developmental psychology, lovemaking, old age, and friendship. The message is simple: Open your heart, reach out, and touch those you care about. If you are a friend, parent, massage therapist, teacher, lover, grandparent, caretaker, health-care professional--or just a compassionate human being--you will learn how even the briefest and simplest forms of touch influence your behavior and enrich the lives of those sharing your world.

Why does happiness last only a moment and leaves a bittersweet aftertaste?

The Power of Touch

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