The <a href="https://hbr.org/2014/03/anticipating-pain-is-worse-than-feeling-it" target="_self">excitement</a> of attaining some object or objective can become obsessive. Yet, shortly after you obtain your desire, you’re bored and in search of something else.Interestingly, your mind can seduce you so much so that the idea of something becomes more satisfying than the thing itself, so you stop at the idea and never make it real.The very act of dreaming stops you from achieving your dreams. You’ve played it out in your mind with such intoxicating detail that you become satisfied enough. You become numbed. And you deceive yourself into believing you’ve actually done something productive.

It's so easy to dream.

The concept is: Do something and don’t stop until it’s complete, no matter how long it takes.our goal is to learn how to accomplish hard things without continuously distracting yourself. You want to develop “A perverse pleasure” in experiencing internal conflict, and sitting with it.You can apply this principle to anything and everything. You can do a homework assignment and just do it until it’s complete. You can write an article and stick-to-it until it’s published. Who cares how long it takes?

The power of objective-based pursuits.

we live in the most distracted time in human history. It is almost impossible to remain focused on a single-task for more than a few minutes at a time.Anything worth doing is going to suck at the beginning. Anything worth doing is meant to require pain and sacrifice. What once used to be a country filled with people sacrificing momentary pleasure for a better future, the overpowering message of today is live for the moment.

Sacrificing Momentary pleasure for a better future.

True confidence is earned. It’s earned by succeeding. Not by wishing for success. True confidence emerges when you consistently push through things that suck. The longer you sit with the boredom, pain, and discomfort — and actually create something meaningful, the more confident and successful you will be.All of these things “suck,” at least initially, and in-the moment. However, if it doesn’t suck, it’s not worth doing. And you absolutely can learn to endure the discomfort of the moment to build a life worth having.

The True Confidence

According to psychological research, the anticipation of an event is almost always more emotionally powerful than the event itself. The dread of asking your boss for a raise is paralyzing and can…

If It Doesn’t Suck, It’s Not Worth Doing

Sahaj Jain