- We risk missing out on happiness if we focus too much on pursuing it. 💔 Instead, we should focus on finding meaning and purpose in our lives. 🌟Potential reasons for this include:<ol><li>Being too busy evaluating our happiness instead of experiencing it 🤔</li><li>Spend too much time striving for peak happiness while overlooking the fact that happiness depends more on the frequency of positive emotions 😊</li><li>Overemphasizing pleasure at the expense of purpose 🚫</li><li>Western individualistic views leaving us lonely 😞</li></ol>🔑 The key to happiness is finding meaning and purpose, rather than solely chasing pleasure.

Finding Meaning and Purpose for Happiness

We don’t have to convince them we’re right- we open their minds to the possibility that they might be wrong.

1. Point out that there are areas where we agree and acknowledge (encourage them to follow).2. Support our argument with a small number of reasons (encourage them to start doubting their own opinions).3. Ask genuine questions (leave them intrigued and wanting to learn more).

Techniques During a Disagreement

﻿As stereotypes stick and prejudice deepens, we don't just identify with our own group; we disidentify with our adversaries, coming to define who we are by what we're not. We don't just preach the virtues of our side; we find self-worth in prosecuting the vices of our rivals

The process of motivational interviewing involves three key techniques:<ul><li>﻿Asking open-ended questions</li><li>Engaging in reflective listening</li><li>Affirming the person's desire and ability to change</li></ul>

In learning cultures, the norm is for people to know what they don't know, doubt their existing practices, and stay curious about new routines to try out.In learning cultures, people don't stop keeping score. They expand the scorecard to consider processes as well as outcomes.

Focusing on results might be good for short-term performance, but it can be an obstacle to long-term learning.

A good process is grounded in deep thinking and rethinking, enabling people to form and express independent opinions.

When we pursue happiness, we often start by changing our sur- roundings. We expect to find bliss in a warmer climate or a friendlier dorm, but any joy that those choices bring about is typically temporary.

“You can't get away from yourself by moving from one place to another."Our happiness often depends more on what we do than where we are. It's our actions-not our surroundings-that bring us meaning and belonging.

A plan for your life "is like driving at night in the fog. You can only see as far as your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.

#1 New York Times Bestseller “THIS. This is the right book for right now. Yes, learning requires focus. But, unlearning and relearning requires much more—it requires choosing courage over comfort. In Think Again, Adam Grant weaves together research and storytelling to help us build the intellectual and emotional muscle we need to stay curious enough about the world to actually change it. I’ve never felt so hopeful about what I don’t know.” —Brené Brown, Ph.D., #1 New York Times bestselling author of Dare to Lead The bestselling author of Give and Take and Originals examines the critical art of rethinking: learning to question your opinions and open other people's minds, which can position you for excellence at work and wisdom in life Intelligence is usually seen as the ability to think and learn, but in a rapidly changing world, there's another set of cognitive skills that might matter more: the ability to rethink and unlearn. In our daily lives, too many of us favor the comfort of conviction over the discomfort of doubt. We listen to opinions that make us feel good, instead of ideas that make us think hard. We see disagreement as a threat to our egos, rather than an opportunity to learn. We surround ourselves with people who agree with our conclusions, when we should be gravitating toward those who challenge our thought process. The result is that our beliefs get brittle long before our bones. We think too much like preachers defending our sacred beliefs, prosecutors proving the other side wrong, and politicians campaigning for approval--and too little like scientists searching for truth. Intelligence is no cure, and it can even be a curse: being good at thinking can make us worse at rethinking. The brighter we are, the blinder to our own limitations we can become. Organizational psychologist Adam Grant is an expert on opening other people's minds--and our own. As Wharton's top-rated professor and the bestselling author of Originals and Give and Take, he makes it one of his guiding principles to argue like he's right but listen like he's wrong. With bold ideas and rigorous evidence, he investigates how we can embrace the joy of being wrong, bring nuance to charged conversations, and build schools, workplaces, and communities of lifelong learners. You'll learn how an international debate champion wins arguments, a Black musician persuades white supremacists to abandon hate, a vaccine whisperer convinces concerned parents to immunize their children, and Adam has coaxed Yankees fans to root for the Red Sox. Think Again reveals that we don't have to believe everything we think or internalize everything we feel. It's an invitation to let go of views that are no longer serving us well and prize mental flexibility over foolish consistency. If knowledge is power, knowing what we don't know is wisdom.

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Books

Adam Grant is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Adam Grant has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Adam Grant's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Adam Grant

Think Again

Every day, people wake up, go to work and do their best to be loving, useful, selfless, loyal, and devoted to their love ones, families, work, friends, and community. But sadly, we rarely see anything about this in the media.

We think people should speak, act, and think the same way we do. When they don't, we feel justified in our self-righteous judgments, gossip, criticism, and negativity toward them.

every day,

The author and professional coach teaches readers to find greater happiness through gratitude in this book of personal stories and practical advice. Before he became a successful author and professional coach, Mike Robbins was a professional baseball player. But at twenty-three years old, he suffered an injury that ended his promising career as a pitcher. Instead of quitting, Mike took stock of the good things in his life and began a new path. In Focus on the Good Stuff, Mike offers a step-by-step program with exercises for overcoming negative influence and obstacles, creating a truly grateful approach to life, and establishing an environment that can support success and peace of mind. Filled with passion, authenticity, and humor, this guide will teach you to move beyond the cycle of negativity and discover the happiness you deserve.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

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Philosophy

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Motivation & Inspiration

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Mental Health

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Focus on the Good Stuff

I born in the world, grown in the world, having overcome the world—live unsmeared by the world.

Jay Shetty, social media superstar and host of the #1 podcast On Purpose, distills the timeless wisdom he learned as a monk into practical steps anyone can take every day to live a less anxious, more meaningful life. When you think like a monk, you’ll understand: -How to overcome negativity -How to stop overthinking -Why comparison kills love -How to use your fear -Why you can’t find happiness by looking for it -How to learn from everyone you meet -Why you are not your thoughts -How to find your purpose -Why kindness is crucial to success -And much more... Shetty grew up in a family where you could become one of three things—a doctor, a lawyer, or a failure. His family was convinced he had chosen option three: instead of attending his college graduation ceremony, he headed to India to become a monk, to meditate every day for four to eight hours, and devote his life to helping others. After three years, one of his teachers told him that he would have more impact on the world if he left the monk’s path to share his experience and wisdom with others. Heavily in debt, and with no recognizable skills on his résumé, he moved back home in north London with his parents. Shetty reconnected with old school friends—many working for some of the world’s largest corporations—who were experiencing tremendous stress, pressure, and unhappiness, and they invited Shetty to coach them on well-being, purpose, and mindfulness. Since then, Shetty has become one of the world’s most popular influencers. In 2017, he was named in the Forbes magazine 30-under-30 for being a game-changer in the world of media. In 2018, he had the #1 video on Facebook with over 360 million views. His social media following totals over 38 million, he has produced over 400 viral videos which have amassed more than 8 billion views, and his podcast, On Purpose, is consistently ranked the world’s #1 Health and Wellness podcast. In this inspiring, empowering book, Shetty draws on his time as a monk to show us how we can clear the roadblocks to our potential and power. Combining ancient wisdom and his own rich experiences in the ashram, Think Like a Monk reveals how to overcome negative thoughts and habits, and access the calm and purpose that lie within all of us. He transforms abstract lessons into advice and exercises we can all apply to reduce stress, improve relationships, and give the gifts we find in ourselves to the world. Shetty proves that everyone can—and should—think like a monk.

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Personal Development

Jay Shetty is a storyteller, podcaster, and former monk. Shetty’s vision is to Make Wisdom Go Viral. He is on a mission to share the timeless wisdom of the world in an accessible, relevant, and practical way. Shetty has created over 400 viral videos with over 5 billion views, and hosts the #1 Health and Wellness podcast in the world, On Purpose. Learn more at JayShetty.me.

Think Again

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