how many times have you failed or haven’t received the outcome you wanted based on the amount of hardwork you did put in? Personally, i never properly experienced failure but just recently when I did not pass an exam to which i dedicated my whole last year, it was heart shattering but even so because it was something i personally chose for myself. Fearing my parents disappointed expressions made me even more anxious. When people have so many expectations from you and fail to accomplish them, it makes you think extremely low of yourself.

You Will Fall But Don't Ever Consider Yourself A Failure

Failure is such a cruel experience, people say it’s something to learn from but no one mentions how to stand up once again after falling down from that failure. It makes you feel depressed, demotivated, worthless. It seems everything is going wrong, everything seems chaotic and dull at the same time. But this is the part when one needs to shut out other’s voices and just listen to their own. This is the moment to re-evaluate your purpose, your goal and redirect your life.

Was the goal that you were working towards really yours? or were you fooled to believe someone else’s dream as yours? If it was yours, were the efforts put in by you not enough? If the dream was not yours, why did you begin in the first place, if you did achieve it, will you feel happy? Was it something that you liked when you first began but now along the way, you lost interest and now are not sure if it’s right for you anymore?

One needs to understand that it’s not necessary for your dream to stay the same, as time goes, you change, your expectations, your capabilities changes, so how can your dream stay the same. Sometimes our evaluation of one self is wrong, we either overestimate our capabilities or underestimate them and end up being in the wrong path. We create wrong dreams for us. Putting your everything, your energy your hardwork may not result in success cause your are putting energy in something that’s not for you.

So after failure is not the time to question your abilities but to question your dreams. The time for self reflection, taking time for yourself and not rushing in but slowing down in reaching a conclusion. I know it’s hard, extremely hard with the weight of failure, disappointment weighing you down, but you got to realise that this is the time when you need yourself the most. It’s not the time to lose hope but to be grateful that you got saved early on from dedication your time on something which was not meant for you.

Go and explore your options once again, chose wisely and patiently and don’t dwell on that failure and start afresh. You sure will succeed, it’s all about being true to yourself and giving yourself some time. Everything’s going to work your way, i believe in you.

My experience

Ishita Shrivastava