Friend: I’d rather die than miss a day at the gymMe: That’s a bit extreme, don’t you think?Friend: What I found is, if I miss one day, I will miss every day. Whatever set of excuses I have today that stop me gyming, they are going to be there every day.Me: Yep I always have the same excuses: I am too busy, I am too tired. There’s never a convenient time.

Train your work ethic & willpower

We procrastinate because we overvalue the present and undervalue the future.We’re drawn to instant gratification. Sitting on the couch and watching TV is instantly enjoyable. Getting into shape at the gym takes a long time.We not do understand the future consequences of our actions. We feel like skipping the gym today is a small thing. We don’t realize that tomorrow we’ll have the same excuses, we’ll never end up going.We defeat procrastination by realizing:If I do not take action today, then I will never achieve my dreams for tomorrow.

Procrastinating to Realization 

You can force yourself into doing anything by putting your dreams on the line.One of the hardest things I did was to quit smoking. I tried and failed multiple times. I cut down to only a few a week. I made it a rule to only smoke around friends. Nothing worked, light smoking turned into heavier smoking and I always fell back into half a pack a day.Then I got my ego involved. I said to myself: I have all these dreams, I want to build a business, solve big problems, change the world.

Dreams vs Bad Habits

Willpower is something that you can train. Willpower is like a muscle, it gets stronger the more you exercise it.It’s the same with any task that requires brain power, it gets easier the more you do it. Your brain is a muscle. It gets stronger the more you use it.According to psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi, flow is when a person doing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energy, focus, and enjoyment. Flow is characterized by complete absorption in what one is doing and loss of one’s sense of space and time.

Willpower is like a muscle

It’s easier to commit 100% to quitting than to smoke in moderation. Because you don’t have to make the decision anymore. Otherwise you’ll be like ‘today’s an exception, my friends are smoking,’ everything becomes an exception.Do not make a backup plan.Plan B only distracts you from plan A.

Commit 100%

I am not afraid to die on a treadmill. I will not be outworked period. You might have more talent than me. You might be smarter than me. But if we get on a treadmill together, there’s two things: You’re getting off first, or I am going to die.

We’re all professionals in one area of our life: our jobs. We show up everyday. We show up no matter what. We stay on the job all day. We’re committed over the long haul. The Pro takes the time to master technique. The stakes are real, this is about survival and feeding our families. The Pro gets paid.

Turn pro


Time is our most valuable asset. Once you’ve spent it, you can’t get it back.This is the amount of time you have, each box represents one year.It’s not much, and you’ve already spent some of the boxes.Hold your hand to your chest and feel your heart.That is the feeling of time slipping away. You will never get those beats back.Value your time like you value money. Think about how much attention we give to money. Working hard to make money, saving money in the bank and finding worthy investments for your money.

Value your time


<ol><li>Wake up early</li><li>Calendar your entire day</li><li>Work on the first important thing first thing in the morning</li><li>Schedule 2 hour time blocks for everything that is important</li><li>Treat your time blocks as if they were appointments with your doctor</li><li>Multitasking doesn't work</li><li>Schedule in free time for thinking and reflecting</li><li>Write down all your ideas</li><li>Get really good at saying now</li><li>Love the process</li></ol>

Life only gets better if you add these

The essence of boredom comes in the obsessive search for novelty, satisfaction lies in mindful repetition, the discovery of endless richness in subtle variations on familiar themes

These ideas helped me to make my work ethic effective , it made me do work I did in 5 hours to 2 hours . Not bad if you are just starting out and think going to bed having done everything with relaxed mind very few people get that type of sleep

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From slow speeds when you start and stop your engine to full-speed cruising down the freeway of your day-to-day, this book summary will explain what the different gears are and when you should use them. By following their lead, you can become more connected to all the situations and people you encounter every day.

Introduction

First gear is for individual recharge; second gear is for connecting deeply with friends or family; third gear is for casual socializing; fourth gear is for working and getting multiple tasks done; fifth gear is fully focusing on a single project.

#1: To avoid being disconnected from others, you need to use the right gear for each situation.

example is a funny video on YouTube of a kiss-cam incident at a basketball game, where a man is so focused on the court that he ignores the camera on him and his date, causing her to kiss another man instead! Too much focus can cause you to miss opportunities at which you might otherwise jump.

#2: Fifth gear is good for getting something specific done but can make you miss important opportunities.

One of the most common examples of this is waking up and checking your emails, meaning that you run headfirst into the day in fourth gear. But imagine a sports team playing an important game; they don’t come charging out the locker room and straight onto the field without warming up first or warming down after!

#3: Fourth gear is the most commonly used for day-to-day action, but people tend to overdo it and risk burning out.

In the same way, you can create new opportunities in third gear by being genuinely curious about other people’s interests and giving them your full attention, since you never know where it might lead. Just remember not to spend your whole life socializing in third gear – you wouldn’t get anything done or have time to relax and develop real relationships as you would when you shift down to second gear.

#4: Third gear is important for building relationships, but many find it difficult to entertain other people's interests.

Second gear requires the most joint responsibility, as everyone must be truly in gear for it to work. Just as the open-door policy clashed with fifth gear, if someone comes to you in second gear and you’re not present too, you’re only wasting their time.

#5: Second gear is for cementing real relationships but is all too often ignored or forced at inappropriate times.

No matter how you recharge, just remember to try and fit in some first gear both first thing in the morning and last thing at night, whether it’s a morning yoga session or cooking family dinner in the evening. After all, you wouldn’t try to start or stop your car without using first gear, so why do the same with yourself? If you recharge regularly and effectively, then all your other gears will also run smoothly throughout your day.

 #6: First gear is about personal recharge and is vital for the other gears but requires individual action.

So how can you make sure you reverse correctly? Probably the most important thing is to use it sincerely – using an apology to get out of disagreements or manipulate others into getting what you want is not healthy behavior and the opposite of being responsive. Make sure you reverse only when you know you’re wrong, and then make sure you do it every time.

#7: Apologizing in reverse gear is important for maintaining respect and influence, but needs sincerity.

Many of us are stuck in one mode, but this isn’t enough. Understanding each of the 5 Gears and when best to use them is the key to being present in every part of your life. From the high focus of fifth gear to multitasking in fourth, socializing in third, connecting with your loved ones in second or taking time for yourself in first, each gear has a right and wrong time and place, even reverse! So long as you know which gears you lean on and which you avoid, you can start to apply the correct one to each part of your day, until you’re fully present in each situation.

KEY ADVICE

Incorporate the language into your office or family.

Actionable advice:

they are important to me and will ne important to all reading the article you bring the terminology of 5 Gears to your home or office, you can easily let others know when you or they are in a different gear to what’s needed. If a colleague is still talking business at lunch, just tell them to switch to third, or if your child is looking for attention while you’re in fifth, flash them five fingers. The message is clear, and no one gets offended by a personal slight – it’s just a case of changing gear!

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I used to complain a lot - it could be about the weather, the traffic, the people on the train and even the coffee from my favorite café. When I think back now, my mind was full of thoughts like: Complaint, complaint and complaint. All these complaints and negative thoughts didn’t only create a very bad start of my day - it actually made my whole day a living hell.

Complaining doesn't do any good

“The train is late again.” “It’s going to rain again today.” “As expected, the bus is jam-packed!” “Damn it, the coffee is way too hot!”

Examples of Complaining 

Complaint, complaint and complaint. All these complaints and negative thoughts didn’t only create a very bad start of my day - it actually made my whole day a living hell.

Too many complaints 

The point here is- sometimes we focus too much on the negative side of things without knowing that every single negative event in your life actually comes with something positive. It’s like a package or buy 1 get 1 free. By changing your way to see things, you will suddenly notice life is full of beauty and opportunities. Next time when your train is delayed, don’t get stressed or frustrated, try to see it from another perspective- the train is late -so what? You will have more time to listen to your favorite podcast or read the book you never have the time to read. The train will come relax!

Problem in complaining 

The best way to stop the chain reaction of the negativity is to immediately tell yourself to stop and start thinking about the positive side of the seemingly negative event. In the above example, what I could have done is thinking about the good of Stockholm. The underground is less crowded, the city is less noisy and it has really fresh air - thanks to the trees!

Solution 

“change the way you look at things and the things you look at change”

These ideas can be life changing for a person as it doesn't give you a productivity hack or technique to stop procrastination . It give you the idea to see life with a different perspective 

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Life is a mountain. Your goal is to find your path, not to reach the top.Life is a mountain. Your goal is to find your path, not to reach the top.

Life is a question and how we live it is our answer.

Keep your eyes on the stars and your feet on the ground.

Change your thoughts and you change your world.

Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.

Quotes to Spark Motivation

<ol><li>Grow big by thinking big.</li><li>Always give people more than they expect to get.</li><li>Destroy fear through action</li></ol>

Success secrets

REMIND YOURSELF ONCE AGAIN, that you are not pulled to high level of success.RATHER you are lifted there by those working beside and below you.How we think is affected by group we are in. Be sure you are in the flock that thinks right.

How to Think like a leader

Whre success is concerned, people are not measured in inches or pounds or college degree or family background; they are measuered by the size of there thinking.How big we think determines the size of our accomplishments.

Measuring success

First published in 1959, David J. Schwartz's classic teachings are as powerful today as they were then. Practical, empowering and hugely engaging, this book not only inspires, it gives you the tools to change your life for the better - starting from now. His step-by-step approach shows you how to: defeat disbelief and the negative power it creates; make your mind produce positive thoughts; plan a concrete success-building programme; do more and do it better by turning on your creative power; and capitalise on the power of now! Revised for today's reader, it offers a go-to guide to a better life - starting with the way you think.

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The timeless and practical advice in The Magic of Thinking Big clearly demonstrates how you can: <ul><li>Sell more</li><li>Manage better</li><li>Lead fearlessly</li><li>Earn more</li><li>Enjoy a happier, more fulfilling life </li><li>With applicable and easy-to-implement insights, you’ll discover:</li><li>Why believing you can succeed is essential</li><li>How to quit making excuses</li><li>The means to overcoming fear and finding confidence</li><li>How to develop and use creative thinking and dreaming</li><li>Why making (and getting) the most of your attitudes is critical</li><li>How to think right towards others</li><li>The best ways to make “action” a habit</li><li>How to find victory in defeat</li><li>Goals for growth, and</li><li>How to think like a leader</li></ul>  "Believe Big,” says Schwartz. “The size of your success is determined by the size of your belief. Think little goals and expect little achievements. Think big goals and win big success. Remember this, too! Big ideas and big plans are often easier -- certainly no more difficult - than small ideas and small plans."

David Joseph Schwartz PhD (March 23, 1927 – December 6, 1987) was an American motivational writer and coach, best known for authoring The Magic of Thinking Big in 1959.He was a professor at Georgia State University and also began his own work as a self-help coach and life strategist. Later, he founded his own consultancy firm focusing on leadership development called 'Creative Educational Services Inc'.He became well known through his motivational publications and self-help books, especially for The Magic of Thinking Big, published in 1959.

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The Magic of Thinking Big

Multitasking is merely an opportunity to screw up more than one thing

Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.

Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now.

Only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go

• More than 500 appearances on national bestseller lists • #1 Wall Street Journal, New York Times, and USA Today • Won 12 book awards • Translated into 35 languages • Voted Top 100 Business Book of All Time on Goodreads People are using this simple, powerful concept to focus on what matters most in their personal and work lives. Companies are helping their employees be more productive with study groups, training, and coaching. Sales teams are boosting sales. Churches are conducting classes and recommending for their members. By focusing their energy on one thing at a time people are living more rewarding lives by building their careers, strengthening their finances, losing weight and getting in shape, deepening their faith, and nurturing stronger marriages and personal relationships. YOU WANT LESS. You want fewer distractions and less on your plate. The daily barrage of e-mails, texts, tweets, messages, and meetings distract you and stress you out. The simultaneous demands of work and family are taking a toll. And what's the cost? Second-rate work, missed deadlines, smaller paychecks, fewer promotions--and lots of stress. AND YOU WANT MORE. You want more productivity from your work. More income for a better lifestyle. You want more satisfaction from life, and more time for yourself, your family, and your friends. NOW YOU CAN HAVE BOTH — LESS AND MORE. In The ONE Thing, you'll learn to * cut through the clutter * achieve better results in less time * build momentum toward your goal* dial down the stress * overcome that overwhelmed feeling * revive your energy * stay on track * master what matters to you The ONE Thing delivers extraordinary results in every area of your life--work, personal, family, and spiritual. WHAT'S YOUR ONE THING?

• More than 500 appearances on national bestseller lists • #1 Wall Street Journal, New York Times, and USA Today • Won 12 book awards • Translated into 35 languages • Voted Top 100 Business Book of All Time on Goodreads People are using this simple, powerful concept to focus on what matters most in their personal and work lives. Companies are helping their employees be more productive with study groups, training, and coaching. Sales teams are boosting sales. Churches are conducting classes and recommending for their members. By focusing their energy on one thing at a time people are living more rewarding lives by building their careers, strengthening their finances, losing weight and getting in shape, deepening their faith, and nurturing stronger marriages and personal relationships. YOU WANT LESS. You want fewer distractions and less on your plate. The daily barrage of e-mails, texts, tweets, messages, and meetings distract you and stress you out. The simultaneous demands of work and family are taking a toll. And what's the cost? Second-rate work, missed deadlines, smaller paychecks, fewer promotions--and lots of stress. AND YOU WANT MORE. You want more productivity from your work. More income for a better lifestyle. You want more satisfaction from life, and more time for yourself, your family, and your friends. NOW YOU CAN HAVE BOTH — LESS AND MORE. In The ONE Thing, you'll learn to * cut through the clutter * achieve better results in less time * build momentum toward your goal* dial down the stress * overcome that overwhelmed feeling * revive your energy * stay on track * master what matters to you The ONE Thing delivers extraordinary results in every area of your life--work, personal, family, and spiritual. WHAT'S YOUR ONE THING?

Professionally, Gary’s ONE Thing is teaching. He excelled as a real estate salesperson by teaching clients how to make great buying and selling decisions. As a real estate sales manager, he recruited agents through training and helped them build careers the same way. As co-founder and chairman of the board, he built Keller Williams Realty International from a single office in Austin, Texas, to one of the largest real estate companies in the world by using his skills as a teacher, trainer, and coach. Gary defines leadership as “teaching people how to think the way they need to think so they can do what they need to do when they need to do it, so they can get what they want when they want it.

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Jay Papasan is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Jay Papasan has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Jay Papasan's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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The ONE Thing

<ul><li>Waste no time day dreaming, envision what you desire and act now</li><li>Take the initiative.</li><li>Do not worry about yesterday's work or mistakes you made in past. Nobody can change the past.</li><li>Do the best work now for a better tomorrow</li><li>Envision yourself in better situation.</li></ul>

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﻿You go where your vision is

﻿The answer to all the things is already within you

Creativity and success more than just thought ; They require action

Action

"Millions of readers have embraced Joseph Murphy's writings, including the phenomenal bestseller The Power of Your Subconscious Mind, a beloved classic that sits alongside the works of Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie, and Norman Vincent Peale. This new collection, authorized by the Joseph Murphy Trust, focuses on prosperity - and the simple yet powerful ways we can focus our attention and beliefs to achieve life goals, obtain riches, and live the life of our dreams"--

In The Power of Your Subconscious Mind, Dr. Joseph Murphy gives you the tools you will need to unlock the awesome powers of your subconscious mind. You can improve your relationships, your finances, your physical well-being. Once you learn how to use this unbelievably powerful force there is nothing you will not be able to accomplish. Join the millions of people who have already unlocked the power of their subconscious minds. I urge you to study this book and apply the techniques outlined therein; and as you do, I feel absolutely convinced that you will lay hold of a miracle-working power that will lift you up from confusion, misery, melancholy, and failure, and guide you to your true place, solve your difficulties, sever you from emotional and physical bondage, and place you on the royal road to freedom, happiness, and peace of mind.- Dr. Joseph Murphy

Joseph Denis Murphy was an Irish author and New Thought minister, ordained in Divine Science and Religious Science.

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Grow Rich with the Power of Your Subconscious Mind

<img src="https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/f/f3/Be-Productive-Step-1-Version-3.jpg/v4-460px-Be-Productive-Step-1-Version-3.jpg"><ol><li><a href="https://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-To-Do-List">Make a to-do list</a> specific and reasonable about your tasks as possible. </li><li>Make a plan</li><li><a href="https://www.wikihow.com/Prioritize">Prioritize</a> and do triage. </li><li><a href="https://www.wikihow.com/Set-Goals">Set goals</a> </li><li><a href="https://www.wikihow.com/Be-Mindful">Be mindful </a>of your effectiveness. </li><li><a href="https://www.wikihow.com/Be-Organized">Keep your tools and materials organized</a></li></ol>

Be organised

<img src="https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/6/6b/Be-Productive-Step-7-Version-3.jpg/v4-460px-Be-Productive-Step-7-Version-3.jpg"><ol><li><a href="https://www.wikihow.com/Avoid-Distractions">Remove distractions</a> </li><li>Tackle one thing at a time. </li><li>Keep your home or workspace tidy. </li></ol>

Stay Focused

<img src="https://www.wikihow.com/images/thumb/0/08/Be-Productive-Step-10-Version-2.jpg/v4-460px-Be-Productive-Step-10-Version-2.jpg"><ol><li>Go to bed early and get enough sleep.</li><li>Set your alarm, and get up as soon as it goes off. </li><li><a href="https://www.wikihow.com/Eat-Healthy">Eat healthy meals</a></li><li>Take breaks. </li></ol>

Take care of yourself

We've all been there: lots of things to do, but finding ourselves distracted, floundering, procrastinating, and unable to get things done. Are you tired of wasting time? If so, then it's time for you to get productive! Make a to-do list....

How to Be Productive

You get social anxiety when you’re around certain people. That anxiety cripples you and you start wondering why you’re so anxious. Now you’re becoming anxious about being anxious. Now you’re anxious about your social anxiety ➡️ more anxiety.you’re so worried about doing the right thing all the time that you become worried about how much you’re worrying. you feel so guilty for every mistake you make that you begin to feel guilty about how guilty you’re feeling.This is “thought loop of despair”

I force myself to sound confident. I go up and say hello to a few people. My voice starts out strong, but then it starts to waver. Everything I say sounds like a question. Hi? How are you? I’m good? Great party?…

Mind Game

After the party I go home and this is when I feel the worst. I start beating myself up. Cue thought loop of despair.Nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves. We pay for our mistakes thousands of times. We make a mistake, we punish ourselves. And you’d think that would be enough, but every time we remember, we punish ourselves again, and again. – Adapted from Don Miguel RuizThe anxiety I feel at the party isn’t even that bad. What is 10 times worse is me beating myself up after.

Beating myself up

I’ve created this self image that I need to be a confident, charismatic guy all the time, and that if I don’t act confident, no one will like me.The slight problem with this is that no one is confident all the time. And when I inevitably fail to live up to my own expectations, it causes me to question the foundations of my identity. Am I some loser who doesn’t know how to socialize? I hate weak people, and <a href="https://lifeclub.org/wiki/i-hate-myself/">I hate myself </a> when I am weak. I am only worthy of love when I meet my own standards.

My Unrealistic Self-image

Zen master Seng-tsan taught that “true freedom is being without anxiety about imperfection.”I gradually begin to accept that: sometimes I act awkward, other times I’m confident. There’s parts of my personality that I like, parts that I don’t like. But, at the end of the day I’m human, a unique individual. And I am learning to love and accept all parts of myself.

We are perfect just the way we are 

There is a life force that runs through all living things. Some people call it god. It is the creator, the enabler of life. God runs through us. We are life. We are god. We don’t need to do anything or achieve anything. We are already worthy of love. Because Love is the very essence of the life that runs through us.The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple.We really should stop judging ourselves

I am alive

Psychologist Dr Kristen Neff talks about how:There isn’t anything wrong with the imperfection of life as long as we don’t expect it to be other than it is.Happiness is not dependent on circumstances being exactly as we want them to be, or on ourselves being exactly as we’d like to be. Rather, happiness stems from loving ourselves and our lives exactly as they are, knowing that joy and pain, strength and weakness, glory and failure are all essential to the full human experience.”

Embracing Imperfection

I focus my attention on how my feelings feel and where they are in my body. I allow myself to experience my nervousness fully.I notice how the heaviness in my belly rises and lifts with my breath. I notice the tightness in my throat extending to my eyes, surrounding them with tension like a clenched fist. I stay with the feeling around my eyes. They feel a little tired, heavy.“Anxiety” doesn’t exist It is just a word that humans make up. All that exists are physical sensations.

'Anxiety' does not exist

If I started thinking How come I’m not confident yet?  this will drive me to start worrying. Why am I not confident yet? I need to be confident  and this starts the thought loop of despair.Accept yourself and then beyourself

We are perfectly imperfect

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Overcoming social anxiety by learning how to love yourself

first and foremost, success takes planning. Planning out your time, planning your goals, planning what to eat, when to relax, and who you have to meet with.  As Ben Franklin puts it: “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” Just for Today: buy a planner/calendar and begin to schedule out your time.

Plan

make them. It’s overwhelmingly more difficult to achieve something if you don’t write it down, plan it out, and focus on accomplishing that specific thing. Make them achievable and give yourself a time limit to accomplish them. A good way to set goals is to picture your end goal and break it down backwards from there. Just for Today: picture yourself in five years and write down exactly where you would like to see yourself, tomorrow you can begin to break it down into achievable goals.

Goals

Keep your attitude positive. Find joy in our work.  Sometimes you just have to decide to be positive about what you are doing right now. Just for Today: think of an issue that makes you think negatively and brainstorm a way to improve that situation or how to combat the negative attitude that comes with it.

Attitude Check 

Always be looking for opportunities to learn. Make sure that whatever you’re doing, you are the best you can be at it. Current employers are future references. Look for ways to excel at your job or add creativity to it. Just for Today: write down the motto: “Why put off to tomorrow what I can get done today.” Put it somewhere that it will remind you to accomplish excellence today.

Seek Excellence

Keep yourself accountable to success by writing down your goals and checklists and keeping track of when you accomplish them. Ask for constructive criticism and accountability from those around you. Just for Today: find one person that would be willing to ask you periodically how your goals are coming along.

Get Feedback

My goal today is to give you some of the tips for success but also break that down into what you can do today. Even if you only accomplish one thing, you’re closer to where you want to be already. Make today the day that you begin an active journey towards success.

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