Fear is not real. It is a product of thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.-Will Smith

Fear is not real.

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Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.Say you're running and you start to think, Man this hurts, I can't take it anymore. The hurt part is an unavoidable reality, but whether or not you can stand any more is up to the runner himself.

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

From the best-selling author of The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle and After Dark, a rich and revelatory memoir about writing and running, and the integral impact both have made on his life. In 1982, having sold his jazz bar to devote himself to writing, Haruki Murakami began running to keep fit. A year later, he’d completed a solo course from Athens to Marathon, and now, after dozens of such races, not to mention triathlons and a slew of critically acclaimed books, he reflects upon the influence the sport has had on his life and–even more important–on his writing. Equal parts training log, travelogue, and reminiscence, this revealing memoir covers his four-month preparation for the 2005 New York City Marathon and includes settings ranging from Tokyo’s Jingu Gaien gardens, where he once shared the course with an Olympian, to the Charles River in Boston among young women who outpace him. Through this marvellous lens of sport emerges a cornucopia of memories and insights: the eureka moment when he decided to become a writer, his greatest triumphs and disappointments, his passion for vintage LPs, and the experience, after the age of fifty, of seeing his race times improve and then fall back. By turns funny and sobering, playful and philosophical, What I Talk About When I Talk About Running is both for fans of this masterful yet guardedly private writer and for the exploding population of athletes who find similar satisfaction in distance running.

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What I Talk About When I Talk About Running

The four-step model for human behavior:cue, craving, response, reward. This framework not only teaches us how to create new habits but also reveals some interesting insights about human behavior.Awareness comes before desire. A craving is created when you assign meaning to a cue. Your brain constructs an emotion or feeling to describe your current situation, and that means a craving can only occur after you have noticed an opportunity.

Lessons from the Four-step Model for Human Behavior

Happiness is simply the absence of desire. When you observe a cue, but do not desire to change your state, you are content with the current situation. Happiness is not about the achievement of pleasure (which is joy or satisfaction), but about the lack of desire. It arrives when you have no urge to feel differently. Happiness is the state you enter when you no longer want to change your state.

It is the idea of pleasure that we chase. We seek the image of pleasure that we generate in our minds. At the time of action, we do not know what it will be like to attain that image (or even if it will satisfy us). The feeling of satisfaction only comes afterward. This is what the Austrian neurologist Victor Frankl meant when he said that happiness cannot be pursued, it must ensue. Desire is pursued. Pleasure ensues from action.

Peace occurs when you don’t turn your observations into problems. The first step in any behavior is observation. You notice a cue, a bit of information, an event. If you do not desire to act on what you observe, then you are at peace.Craving is about wanting to fix everything. Observation without craving is the realization that you do not need to fix anything. Your desires are not running rampant. You do not crave a change in state. Your mind does not generate a problem for you to solve. You’re simply observing and existing.

Being curious is better than being smart. Being motivated and curious counts for more than being smart because it leads to action. Being smart will never deliver results on its own because it doesn’t get you to act. It is desire, not intelligence, that prompts behavior. As Naval Ravikant says, “The trick to doing anything is first cultivating a desire for it.”Emotions drive behavior. Every decision is an emotional decision at some level. Whatever your logical reasons are for taking action, you only feel compelled to act on them because of emotion.

This is why craving comes before response. The feeling comes first, and then the behavior.Suffering drives progress. The source of all suffering is the desire for a change in state. This is also the source of all progress. The desire to change your state is what powers you to take action. It is wanting more that pushes humanity to seek improvements, develop new technologies, and reach for a higher level. With craving, we are dissatisfied but driven. Without craving, we are satisfied but lack ambition.

Your actions reveal how badly you want something. If you keep saying something is a priority but you never act on it, then you don’t really want it. It’s time to have an honest conversation with yourself. Your actions reveal your true motivations.Reward is on the other side of sacrifice. Response (sacrifice of energy) always precedes reward (the collection of resources). The “runner’s high” only comes after the hard run. The reward only comes after the energy is spent.

Self-control is difficult because it is not satisfying. A reward is an outcome that satisfies your craving. This makes self-control ineffective because inhibiting our desires does not usually resolve them. Resisting temptation does not satisfy your craving; it just ignores it. It creates space for the craving to pass. Self-control requires you to release a desire rather than satisfy it.

Our expectations determine our satisfaction. The gap between our cravings and our rewards determines how satisfied we feel after taking action. If the mismatch between expectations and outcomes is positive (surprise and delight), then we are more likely to repeat a behavior in the future. If the mismatch is negative (disappointment and frustration), then we are less likely to do so. An average experience preceded by high expectations is a disappointment. An average experience preceded by low expectations is a delight. When liking and wanting are approximately the same, you feel satisfied.

Satisfaction = Liking – Wanting Feelings come both before and after the behavior. Before acting, there is a feeling that motivates you to act—the craving. After acting, there is a feeling that teaches you to repeat the action in the future—the reward.Cue &gt; Craving (Feeling) &gt; Response &gt; Reward (Feeling)How we feel influences how we act, and how we act influences how we feel.

Desire initiates. Pleasure sustains. Wanting and liking are the two drivers of behavior. If it’s not desirable, you have no reason to do it. Desire and craving are what initiate a behavior. But if it’s not enjoyable, you have no reason to repeat it. Pleasure and satisfaction are what sustain a behavior. Feeling motivated gets you to act. Feeling successful gets you to repeat.Hope declines with experience and is replaced by acceptance. The first time an opportunity arises, there is hope of what could be. Your expectation (cravings) is based solely on promise.

The second time around, your expectation is grounded in reality. You begin to understand how the process works and your hope is gradually traded for a more accurate prediction and acceptance of the likely outcome.This is one reason why we continually grasp for the latest get-rich￾quick or weight-loss scheme. New plans offer hope because we don’t have any experiences to ground our expectations. New strategies seem more appealing than old ones because they can have unbounded hope. As Aristotle noted, “Youth is easily deceived because it is quick to hope.”

Perhaps this can be revised to “Youth is easily deceived because it only hopes.” There is no experience to root the expectation in. In the beginning, hope is all you have.

The #1 New York Times bestseller. Over 2 million copies sold! Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving--every day. James Clear, one of the world's leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results. If you're having trouble changing your habits, the problem isn't you. The problem is your system. Bad habits repeat themselves again and again not because you don't want to change, but because you have the wrong system for change. You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems. Here, you'll get a proven system that can take you to new heights. Clear is known for his ability to distill complex topics into simple behaviors that can be easily applied to daily life and work. Here, he draws on the most proven ideas from biology, psychology, and neuroscience to create an easy-to-understand guide for making good habits inevitable and bad habits impossible. Along the way, readers will be inspired and entertained with true stories from Olympic gold medalists, award-winning artists, business leaders, life-saving physicians, and star comedians who have used the science of small habits to master their craft and vault to the top of their field. Learn how to: • make time for new habits (even when life gets crazy); • overcome a lack of motivation and willpower; • design your environment to make success easier; • get back on track when you fall off course; ...and much more. Atomic Habits will reshape the way you think about progress and success, and give you the tools and strategies you need to transform your habits--whether you are a team looking to win a championship, an organization hoping to redefine an industry, or simply an individual who wishes to quit smoking, lose weight, reduce stress, or achieve any other goal.

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Atomic Habits

Haluhalo is a popular Filipino iced dessert. “Halo-Halo” literally means “mix-mix”. As its name implies it's a mixture of boiled sweet beans, gelatin, preserved or fresh sweet fruits, tapioca, and other sweet ingredients topped off with shaved ice, and evaporated milk. It is usually served in a tall glass or bowl.

HALO-HALO

<ul><li>This icy treat is known for its flavorful taste, and has a rich history that dates back to the pre-war Japanese period.</li><li>This favourite shaved ice dessert was introduced to the Filipinos by the Japanese settlers. According to historians, the Japanese had sweet desserts called ‘Mitsumame‘ or ‘mongo con hielo‘ and ‘kakigori’ which closely resemble the Filipinos' Halo-halo.</li><li>After they introduced the dessert, locals made variations by adding fruit preserves and custards.</li></ul>

HISTORY

<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">While the Japanese settlers left after&nbsp;World War II, the Filipinos took hold of the dessert’s popularity and adapted it to suit their preferences – for instance, adding&nbsp;ube&nbsp;jam or&nbsp;ube&nbsp;ice cream to the concoction.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Since then,&nbsp;Halo-halo&nbsp;has become one of the Philippines' best comfort food dishes. Indeed, recipes for&nbsp;Halo-halo&nbsp;vary widely, depending on your preferences or a locality’s specialty.</li></ul>

SALUD'S HALO-HALOLUCBAN, QUEZONWith ice so refined and velvety, the halo-halo is definitely impressive. It also contains roasted pinipig which provides an incredible blend to the flavor of the entire halo halo. Most ingredients are made&nbsp;fresh in-house&nbsp;producing this exquisite dessert.

SOME VARIETIES OF HALO-HALO IN THE PHILIPPINES

BEN'S HALO-HALOSAN PABLO, LAGUNAA Pinoy favorite is given a new twist in a restaurant at San Pablo City, Laguna. Owned by Mang Ben, thus the name "Ben's Halo-halo Ice Cream," it offers guests the&nbsp;first spicy haluhalo ice creamin the Philippines for only 50 pesos

PRITONG HALO-HALO SAN FERNANDO, LA UNIONAside from using regular ingredients Halo halo de Iloko dining introduce additional texture by layering polvoron underneath all that creamy sweetness! Their haluhalo starts at P99, with their Pritong Halo-Halo (P150) raning as their best-seller.CHECK ALSO <a href="https://theculturetrip.com/asia/philippines/articles/the-best-halo-halo-in-manila-philippines/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">BEST HALUHALO IN MANILA, PHILIPPINES </a>and <a href="https://www.thepoortraveler.net/2020/04/philippines-halo-halo/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">UNIQUE HALOHALO VERSIONS AROUND THE PHILIPPINES</a>Reference https://www.yummy.ph/news-trends/halo-halo-philippines-a1785-20190501-lfrm

Discover where to find the best halo-halo in Metro Manila and indulge yourself in this creamy, rich, and flavourful Filipino dessert.

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The Best Halo-Halo in Manila, Philippines

Happiness is not a goal itself. Achieving happiness is not the sole purpose of life. Happiness is a result. It is a result of something we achieved and the byproduct of something we pursued. It comes from solving problems. We may have different definitions of happiness which may narrowed down to the process of pursuing "happiness". Instead of finding and chasing happiness, we should open-mindedly handle and deal what life gives us and brings us. In that way, happiness will always be produced.

HAPPINESS IS NOT A GOAL ITSELF. 

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Recently, I’ve been spending time with people who are precious to meEveryone, if you have someone who comes to your mind as well,how about reaching out to them first today?