Who Is The ENEMY in Our Way To Success/Happiness?

• Anticipation is the enemy of patience.• Perfection is the enemy of progress.• Comparison is the enemy of joy.• Jealousy is the enemy of inspiration.• Comfort is the enemy of growth.• Naivety is the enemy of conviction.• Resilience is the enemy of failure.

Discard The Following 

What' distracting my progress?

Creating + Selling = WealthHonesty + Respect = FriendshipFriendship + Affection = LoveFasting + No carbs = HealthReading + Writing = ClarityDiscipline + Struggle = TalentTheory + Practice = MasteryCourage + Vision = SuccessDetachment + Growth = Happiness

Life’s Equations

How to measure major things

Be ready to be alone.Be ready to be doubted.Be ready to be criticised.Be ready to be laughed at.Be ready to be misunderstood.Be ready to lose a lot of people.

When You Are Quite Serious About Your DREAM

What emotions you’ll be getting/having while reaching your dream?

More observing, less judging.More responding, less reacting.More self-love, less self-sabotage.More boundaries, less resentment.More inner peace, less outer chaos.More clarity, less confusion.More faith, less fear.

Do More/Less During The Process

My published ideas

SIGNS, You are HEALING

How to have the right attitude towards learning anything?

Learning “HOW TO LEARN

<ol><li class="ql-align-center">What are the factors that differentiate the few, who make it to the top?</li><li class="ql-align-center">Since most people never achieve that lofty goal then what is the point of trying?</li></ol>

This belief is wrong that ‘skill is an ingrained and unalterable level of ability.’ So, don't use language like<ul><li>I am a good writer</li><li>I am bad at Music</li></ul>Also, parents should not set their children up for failure by telling them<ul><li>You are so good at reading</li><li>Maths is not your thing</li></ul>This is called “Learned helplessness orientation”.

Don't have ENTITY mindset

It is true and should be believed that ‘any concept or skill can be grasped and mastered incrementally. So, prefer to say things like<ul><li>I did well because I put in time</li><li>I should have worked harder at this</li></ul>To help their children, parents can say things like<ul><li>You are getting really good at reading, keep it up</li><li>It's ok, we just need to study a little harder and you will do great on the next maths test</li></ul>Teach children the “Mastery oriented response”, so that they can associate success with effort not anything else.

Grab the INCREMENTAL theory of intelligence

“The fields of learning and performance are an exploration of greyness - of the in-between. There is a careful balance of pushing yourself relentlessly, but not so hard that you melt down. Muscles and minds needs stretch to grow, but if stretched too thin, they’ll snap”<ul><li>Josh Waitzkin </li></ul>

<ul><li>One phase of full throttle action</li><li>One phase of influx, broken down growth</li></ul>Most people refuse to invest in loss during the growth stages and as a result never upgrade their game.Sometimes you need to breakdown every thing in mind and start from ground zero to reconstruct the game and to reach to the next level. So you need to invest in loss sometimes.

Recurring cycle in the process of learning

Better the recovery process, better performance.More you practise the cycles of rest, the less you will need to take. Athletes are taught this as “interval training”.﻿

Peak Performance is related to stress and recovery process

Most of us don't know about how to learn the things, with what attitude we face the situation, which mindset is better you approach the next goal.

In his riveting new book, The Art of Learning, Waitzkin tells his remarkable story of personal achievement and shares the principles of learning and performance that have propelled him to the top—twice. Josh Waitzkin knows what it means to be at the top of his game. A public figure since winning his first National Chess Championship at the age of nine, Waitzkin was catapulted into a media whirlwind as a teenager when his father’s book Searching for Bobby Fischer was made into a major motion picture. After dominating the scholastic chess world for ten years, Waitzkin expanded his horizons, taking on the martial art Tai Chi Chuan and ultimately earning the title of World Champion. How was he able to reach the pinnacle of two disciplines that on the surface seem so different? “I’ve come to realize that what I am best at is not Tai Chi, and it is not chess,” he says. “What I am best at is the art of learning.” With a narrative that combines heart-stopping martial arts wars and tense chess face-offs with life lessons that speak to all of us, The Art of Learning takes readers through Waitzkin’s unique journey to excellence. He explains in clear detail how a well-thought-out, principled approach to learning is what separates success from failure. Waitzkin believes that achievement, even at the championship level, is a function of a lifestyle that fuels a creative, resilient growth process. Rather than focusing on climactic wins, Waitzkin reveals the inner workings of his everyday method, from systematically triggering intuitive breakthroughs, to honing techniques into states of remarkable potency, to mastering the art of performance psychology. Through his own example, Waitzkin explains how to embrace defeat and make mistakes work for you. Does your opponent make you angry? Waitzkin describes how to channel emotions into creative fuel. As he explains it, obstacles are not obstacles but challenges to overcome, to spur the growth process by turning weaknesses into strengths. He illustrates the exact routines that he has used in all of his competitions, whether mental or physical, so that you too can achieve your peak performance zone in any competitive or professional circumstance. In stories ranging from his early years taking on chess hustlers as a seven year old in New York City’s Washington Square Park, to dealing with the pressures of having a film made about his life, to International Chess Championships in India, Hungary, and Brazil, to gripping battles against powerhouse fighters in Taiwan in the Push Hands World Championships, The Art of Learning encapsulates an extraordinary competitor’s life lessons in a page-turning narrative.

The Art of Learning

If you have no connections, build them.If you have no money, work, save, invest.If you have no friend, be a better person.If you have no talent, practice more.If you have no idea, walk more.If you have no confidence, commit more. If you have no clarity, write more. KEEP IT SIMPLE & SHORT.

If You Have

Simple Hacks For Everyday Problems

This Matrix is a tool that solves the problem of goal-setting. It allows you to sort things by priority. Before you throw a task onto your to-do list, answer two questions:Is it urgent? Is it important? ❗️Important and urgent - DO IT NOW. ❗️Important but not urgent - PLAN. ❗️Urgent but not important - DELEGATE. ❗️Not urgent or important - ELIMINATE. After distributing tasks into squares, you will understand where more energy goes and you will be able to manage your time and energy properly.

Eisenhower Matrix

Don’t get confused for what to do first, just follow this simple technique.

How to Prioritise Tasks?

This is a question that many people wonder about. The desire for self-development is already a good thing, but only if the desire does not go away after a day or two. This often happens when one doesn't know where to start. There are 5 Steps to begin self-development- 1. Goal setting2. Self-organisation and a positive attitude3. A proper distribution of energy4. Networking5. Constant learning new things In the following stashes, we will deal with each point separately 🙂

How to start the self-development programme?

If a person is standing in the middle of a forest and doesn't know where to go, the first thing to do is to identify exactly where they are. It is the same here. Once you realise that you need to develop, you need to understand from where this development will start and what specific efforts you need to make to achieve a certain result. A series of questions will do the trick. Ask yourself questions:🔺 What doesn't suit me?🔺 What doesn't suit the people whose opinions are important to me?🔺 What would I like to achieve?🔺 What would make me a better person?

Goal setting 🎯

It should be clear from the outset that self-development is easy enough to begin with. Don't be late, don't be lazy, don't complain, use every minute to your advantage. If you have taken a job or a course that should bring you closer to your goal, do it diligently and qualitatively. If you receive a refusal, a bad evaluation, a negative result, it is not a reason to admit worthlessness and fall into despondency. Learned bad experience will eventually give a positive result. Try again, knock on another door, adopt experiences, observe, learn, seek help. Try to find the positive in everything.

Self-organisation and a positive attitude

You want to know how to start a new life and change yourself, then start storing energy. You will need it for the new challenges in your personal development plan.  Don't waste energy on negative emotions, don't get angry, don't discuss others and don't get jealous. Start the day with the exercise, eat right, do not abuse alcohol and nicotine, give enough time to sleep. A great source of positive energy is exercising, which develops willpower, perseverance and endurance.

Accumulate Energy

To start self-development and self-improvement, you need to be able to adapt in society. After all, it is impossible to develop in a closed space. By communicating we gain knowledge, acquire skills, get emotions and impressions, life experience. Observe different people, listen to how and what they say, how others react to it.  Learn communication skills and behaviours that provoke positive reactions, help to avoid conflict, help to incline the other person to your point of view. Be able to listen to other people's opinions, try to understand what they are saying, put yourself in their shoes.

Social skills development (Networking)

Not sure how to start a new life and change yourself? Do things you haven't done before. Learn to drive, go swimming, learn a new profession, take a foreign language course or go to yoga.  Act differently from what you did before. Socialise with people, attend cultural or educational events, travel in your country or abroad, do volunteer work or social activities. New experiences will help you discover hidden talents, broaden your world view and make you free and liberated.

Learning new things all the time 📖

Where to start personal development?

Don’t just learn a list for nothing. Always learn words in context, pick up examples and word combinations.

Learn Words In Context

If your level is high enough and there is no urgent need to expand your vocabulary, the easiest thing to do is read a lot.

Reading

Write words on cards and review them several times a day.

Learn new words with Cards

By learning new words and word combinations. Make up sentences, interesting stories, role play conversations.

Create stories

You can put on audio recordings of word lists and repeat after the speaker.

Listening to words

5 Ways of Learning Foreign Language/Words Smartly

Live in Day-Tight Compartments "Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at distance but to do what lies clearly at hand"

1. Analyse the situation & think what Worst can happen.2. Assume that the worst has happened. 3. Now devote your time and energy to trying to improve the worst.

3-Step formula to solve worry situation

Happy the man, and Happy he alone,He who can call to-day his own,He who, is secure within can say,Tomorrow, do thy worst, for I have lived today.

<ol><li>Healthy Religion (Have it or don’t)</li><li>Good Sleep</li><li>Good Music</li><li>Good Laughter</li></ol>Have these, Health and happiness will be yours.

4 Relaxing and Recreating Forces

Businessman who don't know how to fight worry, die young.

<ul><li>Get the facts</li><li>Analyse the facts</li><li>Arrive on a decision</li><li>Act on that decision</li></ul>

How to solve the situation

It is difficult to worry while you are busy doing something that requires planning and thinking. That's why there is always peace in libraries and laboratories.

For every ailment under the sun there is a remedy or there is none if there be one, try to find it if there be none, never mind it.

<ul><li>To get what you want </li></ul>and after that<ul><li>To enjoy it. </li></ul>Only the wisest of mankind achieve the second.

2 things to aim in life

<ul><li>Clear your brain and desk of all things except those relating to immediate problem at hand.</li><li>Do things in order of their importance. </li><li>When face a problem, solve it then & there.</li><li>Learn to Organise, Deputise & Supervise.  </li></ul>

Good Working Habits

<ul><li>Don't increase your headaches with your income. </li><li>Don't imitate others, Find yourself,Be yourself. </li><li>Do a good deed everyday to put smile on random face. </li><li>Expect ingratitude,its natural. Just give anything for the inner joy of giving. </li><li>Count 90% blessings not 10% troubles. </li><li>When criticised, remember - no one kicks a dead dog. </li><li>Generally our fatigue is not caused by work, but by worry, frustration & resentment. </li><li>Choose work that you enjoy doing. </li><li>Be on budget, Spend wisely. </li><li>KEEP ACTIVE KEEP BUSY.</li></ul>

Some little but important insights. 

The book 'How to stop worrying & start living' suggest many ways to conquer worry and lead a wonderful life. The book mentions fundamental facts to know about worry and magic formula for solving worry-some situations. Psychologists & Doctors' view: • Worry can make even the most stolid person ill. • Worry may cause nervous breakdown. • Worry can even cause tooth decay • Worry is one of the factors for High Blood Pressure. • Worry makes you tense and nervous and affect the nerves of your stomach. The book suggests basic techniques in analysing worry, step by step, in order to cope up with them. A very interesting feature of the book is 'How to eliminate 50% of your business worries'. The book offers 7 ways to cultivate a mental attitude that will bring you peace and happiness. Also, the golden rule for conquering worry, keeping your energy & spirits high. The book consists of some True Stories which will help the readers in conquering worry to lead you to success in life. The book is full of similar incidences and narrations which will make our readers to understand the situation in an easy way and lead a happy life. A must read book for everyone.

What' distracting my progress?

How to measure major things

What emotions you’ll be getting/having while reaching your dream?

SIGNS, You are HEALING

The Art of Learning

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