Trauma, whether it is the result of something done to you or something you yourself have done, almost always makes it difficult to engage in intimate relationships. after you have experienced something so unspeakble, how do you learn to trust yourself or anyone else again? Or onversely, how can you surrender to an intimate relationship after you have been brutally violated

1. Though we have the capacity to destroy one another, we also have the capacty to heal one another. 2. Language gives us the power to change ourselves and others by communicating our experiences to help us define what we know and find a common sense of meaning.3. We have the ability to regulate our own physioogy.4. We canchange social conditions to create environments in which children and adults feel safe, where we can thrive.

4 Fundamental Truths

...deep down many traumatized people are even more haunted by the shame they feel about what they themselves did or did not do under the circumstances

For real change to take place, the body needs to learn that the danger has passed and to live in the reality of the present.

The greatest source of our suffering are the lies we tell ourselves

Trauma shapes us, even our bodies. Dr. van der Kolk digs deep onw how trauma shapes us and how we can rise above it.

#1 New York Times bestseller “Essential reading for anyone interested in understanding and treating traumatic stress and the scope of its impact on society.” —Alexander McFarlane, Director of the Centre for Traumatic Stress Studies A pioneering researcher transforms our understanding of trauma and offers a bold new paradigm for healing in this New York Times bestseller   Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world’s foremost experts on trauma, has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. He explores innovative treatments—from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama, and yoga—that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain’s natural neuroplasticity. Based on Dr. van der Kolk’s own research and that of other leading specialists, The Body Keeps the Score exposes the tremendous power of our relationships both to hurt and to heal—and offers new hope for reclaiming lives.

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Bessel A. Van der Kolk is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Bessel A. Van der Kolk has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Bessel A. Van der Kolk's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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