Research agrees: Developing greater emotional intelligence can lead to <a href="https://www.inc.com/justin-bariso/9-brutal-truths-about-emotional-intelligence-everyone-needs-to-hear.html">higher performance and pay </a>, as well as <a href="https://www.inc.com/justin-bariso/this-single-statistic-proves-why-you-need-to-improve-your-emotional-intelligence.html">better professional and personal relationships </a>.Which means we can work to unlearn and relearn some of our emotional responses.Instead, you're stressed about a specific version of the future. Or about a certain decision you think may come back to haunt you. Or an upcoming presentation, or a conversation you dread having with an underperforming employee ..."It's just really cool to get the opportunity to have all that pressure on you," Joey told me before the season-ending race at Homestead in 2016, where he had a shot to win that year's championship. "A lot of people don't get the opportunity to have pressure. To work hard and get to a certain level and then have pressure ... it's a privilege to feel pressure ." (My italics.)

Emotional intelligence tips

According to research on achievement and success by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck, <a href="http://www.chronicle.com/article/Carol-Dwecks-Attitude/65405/">most people tend to have one of two mental perspectives </a>where talent is concerned. Surprisingly, the same applies to emotions. As Lisa Feldman Barrett writes in <a href="https://amzn.to/3okG36w">How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain </a>: Which means we can work to unlearn and relearn some of our emotional responses.

Growth mindset to emotions

Say you feel "stressed." (Who doesn't?) "Stressed" has meaning, but it's too vague.Instead, you're stressed about a specific version of the future. Or about a certain decision you think may come back to haunt you. Or an upcoming presentation, or a conversation you dread having with an underperforming employee ...While it might sound odd -- especially since we're often told not to dwell on our emotions -- taking the time to think about the reasons why you feel the way you feel helps you better deal with that emotion.

Identify your emotions

"It's just really cool to get the opportunity to have all that pressure on you," Joey told me before the season-ending race at Homestead in 2016, where he had a shot to win that year's championship. "A lot of people don't get the opportunity to have pressure. To work hard and get to a certain level and then have pressure ... it's a privilege to feel pressure ." (My italics.)Logano reframed "pressure" into a positive. Pressure is a sign you're pushing yourself. And that's a good thing. You can't achieve more unless you try to do more.When you feel pressured, when you feel nervous or stressed or anxious, reframe the emotion. If you feel pressure, that means you're in a position to make things happen. That's a good thing. If you feel nervous, that means you care. That's a good thing.

Reframe your emotions

For them, "stress" is a negative."It's just really cool to get the opportunity to have all that pressure on you," Joey told me before the season-ending race at Homestead in 2016, where he had a shot to win that year's championship. "A lot of people don't get the opportunity to have pressure. To work hard and get to a certain level and then have pressure ... it's a privilege to feel pressure ." (My italics.)Logano reframed "pressure" into a positive. But you can control, at least to some degree, how you respond to and manage those emotions.

You can't always change your feelings. But you can change how you manage those feelings.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Neuroscience Reveals 3 Simple Ways to Dramatically Improve Your Emotional Intelligence

<h2>1) What Are They Passionate About?</h2><h2>2) What Have They Succeeded At In The Past?</h2><h2>3) What Comes Easily To Them?</h2><h2>4) What Do They Make Better?</h2>

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The areas people are most passionate about usually involve their strengths. Simply listening to the ideas that ignite their excitement will give you clues to their unique gifts. Find out what they read about, think about, and ask questions about. These insights will help you know their true passions. When you find someone’s passion, you will find what they will be most productive in. The goal is to connect their passions with their job responsibilities. The larger the gap is between someone’s passion and their work, the less productive they will be. Leonardo da Vinci said, “Where the spirit does not work with the hand there is no art.” The less of a gap there is between someone’s passion and their job, the easier it is to activate them. Bridging an individual’s passion to their job self-motivates them to be internally invested in their work.

What are they passionate about?

It doesn’t matter what people have talked about doing; what matters is what they have successfully done. To find someone’s strength, look to his or her achievements. What tasks, events, programs, or opportunities have they excelled in? Success in a particular area indicates an individual’s strength. People do not excel in things they are bad at. This is especially important with new team members. Find out what they have done well in the past and develop those things for the future. As they continue on, make sure you get the stats and keep the stats so that you, as the leader, are aware of individuals’ best performances.

What have they succeeded at?

As they finish tasks and projects you have assigned to them, make sure to take notes on how they did. Be specific about the areas they executed well and the areas they struggled with. Reflecting upon past performance gives you great insight into future possibilities. I would also encourage you to test individuals’ abilities by letting them take on new roles. You never know what hidden strength or talent they may have buried within them just waiting to be unleashed.We are naturally intuitive in the area of our strengths. When someone is able to learn a new skill quickly or accomplish assignments efficiently, it is usually a great indicator of their strengths. Find out what comes easily to others and make note of it. What do they accomplish faster than anyone else? What do they inherently know faster than others? This can be an “x factor” type of characteristic that people have in their strength zone. They just have that “gut feeling” that seems to guide them in their decision making.

What comes easily to them?

When someone has strength in a given skill, they are clearly good at it. If you want to know if they are gifted in an area, give them something to do and see if they make it bigger or smaller. Highly gifted individuals will take a project and add to it rather than subtract from it. They will tend to be more thorough in the execution than average. Though we all need training to grow better, natural strengths lie within each person making them better at certain things.

Neuroscience Reveals 3 Simple Ways to Dramatically Improve Your Emotional Intelligence

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