His two books can have a great influence on your life and make you a much improved human being.

The first chapter on criticism talks about how we condemn and complain about everything we don’t like in our lives but never appreciate things that we like. That was exactly how I was. I always criticized people if they did anything wrong and never appreciated them for doing right. After reading this book, I have stopped criticizing all together. Now, if I see someone doing something wrong, I try to motivate them and tell them they can do it right next time. And I have even made a rule to at least appreciate one person daily.

Appreciate 

I always used to think that people are more likely to listen to you if you shout or show authority. But this book taught me that you could only influence the person to do something for you by talking about what he wants and showing him how to get it.

Cooperation more than Authorisation

I used to argue and fight with people on every little thing where I thought they were wrong. But Mr. Carnegie taught that “The best way to win an argument is to avoid it.” Even if you win the argument by throwing great points and proving the other person wrong, you will lose because you have hurt others’ pride, and now he will never back down because of his pride.A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.

Stop Arguing 

I used to be so afraid worrying about my future, fretting about the consequences of my actions. But this book made me understand; it is of no use to think about the future or the past. The only thing matters is the present.A today well lived makes yesterday a dream of happiness, And every tomorrow a vision of hope.

Seize the Day

Another advice that I liked the most was how we could eradicate almost all our worries just by staying busy. Mr. Carnegie gives examples of many people (the best thing about his books: his real-life cases), including Winston Churchill, on how they became so busy with their work that they had no time to worry. “No time to worry,” that’s what Churchill said when I asked about how he is dealing with the war’s problems.

Be busy

It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn — and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.

Some Quotes 

How funny is this that a person who died 45 years ago you were born can have such a significant influence on your life. For the past year, I have been a regular reader of self-help books. I was…

Dale Carnegie is long dead but he still can change your life

Shivam Agarwal