Sometimes when you're in a dark place you think you've been buried;but you've actually been planted.

Maybe it’s not the end; maybe it’s the start.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

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Philosophy

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Personal Development

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Motivation & Inspiration

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Mental Health

Christine Caine: When You’re In A Dark Place

People ask me all the time: “How do I know I’m pursuing the right dream? How do I know if this is my destiny? How do I know if this is my calling?”And, for me, it’s really simple.If you’re drawn by the outcome, it’s not your dream. If you love the process, it is your dream. If you’re drawn by the outcome, it’s not your destiny. If you love the process, it probably is your destiny.

What is it that draws you and holds you to what you’re doing?

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Mindfulness

Erwin McManus: How To Know You’re Pursuing Your Dream

The Peter Principle states that every member of a hierarchy will eventually rise to their level of incompetence, or final placement. This position is the furthest you can be promoted with the skills that you possess. In other words, employees continue to receive promotions as long as they’re competent in their current position.

The Peter Principle

As individuals, our skills and competencies vary. You might be a genius software developer, and be very proud of that fact. But this doesn’t make you the best fit for a consultancy; perhaps you might simply be unable to cope with the constant pressure of that business.Some of us are able to rise all the way to the top of a hierarchy without reaching our level of incompetence, so we switch to other hierarchies and find it there. This is called compulsive incompetence. Just look at Socrates: A great teacher; not such a great defense lawyer.

Incompetence Is Inescapable

Perhaps you’re harboring doubts about the Peter Principle, as you can recall several cases where it didn’t apply in your own workplace. If someone is promoted even though he obviously reached his level of incompetence, this must be an exception to the rule, right?Nope. That’s called a pseudo-promotion.Pseudo-promotions are just sideways shifts, leaving employees in the same place in the food chain with no real increase in power. Percussive Sublimation is what happens when someone who is already at their level of incompetence receives a promotion in another division.

The Pseudo-Promotion

A Lateral Arabesque promotes someone incompetent by offering them a shiny new job title. Take a certain Mr. Schmidt, who is now an incompetent Senior Facility Manager, even though he did the exact same job as a maintenance man. The larger the organization, the more Lateral Arabesques you’ll find.

The Lateral Arabesque

When it seems impossible that someone so incompetent can be promoted, it might be Peter’s Inversion: a nurse wakes you up to remind you to take your sleeping pill; though the goal is for you to sleep, her reminding you was more important to her.This may seem counter-intuitive, but it isn’t. Competence is both relative and subjective, as it’s something usually determined by your superior. If a rule enjoins nurses to remind every patient of his pills, the nurse followed the rules to perfection. These non-exceptions show that the Peter Principle exists in any organization with a hierarchy.

The Peter’s Inversion

The great work we’re doing now will inevitably get us promoted to a job we can’t do.

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Leadership & Management

The Peter Principle: In Every Hierarchy The Cream Rises Until It Sours

People change when they hurt enough they have to;when they see enough they’re inspired to;when they learn enough that they want to;and when they receive enough that they’re able to.

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John C. Maxwell: The 4 Times People Change In Life

If you’re rejected, accept it. If you’re unloved, let go. If they choose someone or something over you, move on. Not everyone you love will stay; not everyone you trust will be loyal. I don’t care about losing people who don’t want to be in my life anymore. I’ve lost people who meant the world to me and I’m still doing just fine. Do not follow the majority; follow the right way. You can feel it when someone is not being real with you; energy never lies. Always speak how you feel and never be sorry for being real.

Give people time; give people space. Don’t beg anyone to stay; let them roam. What’s meant for you will always be yours. I feel so much better when people don’t know where I am and what I’m doing. You may not be able to control every situation and its outcome, but you can control your attitude and how you deal with it. Do good; it will come back to you in unexpected ways. Be happy with what you have, while working for what you want.

Do good; it will come back to you in unexpected ways.

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Denzel Washington: Energy Never Lies

The rarer you are, the rarer the people are who share your perspective. In this way, the greater your success, the fewer people you can share it with.

Loneliness is a kind of tax you have to pay to atone for a certain complexity of mind.

The rarer you are, the rarer the people are who share your perspective.

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Podcasts

Chris Williamson: Rarity And Loneliness, Complexity And Atonement

The next time you feel left out - your friends all go out to brunch together and they don’t invite you? Let them. The person you’re dating doesn’t want a commitment? Let them. Your company is laying people off? Let them.We spend so much time and energy trying to control other people and getting emotionally worked up about things that are beyond our control, when we can tap into peace and control if we let people be themselves.

And here’s the other thing:If you let them, people will then reveal who they truly are to you.And when people reveal who they truly are to you, you now know what you can choose next that’s right for you.So let them.

If you let them, people will then reveal who they truly are to you.

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Love & Relationships

Mel Robbins: The “Let Them” Theory

When we think about wisdom, our mind might immediately race to some qualities such as having extensive knowledge and the perspective to use that knowledge. We might have an older relative who our family agrees is the go-to person any time there’s a problem. Need help deciding how to handle an argument between two of your in-laws? We’ll sit down and have a heart-to-heart with this family elder to plan a way out of the dilemma.

The Age-Wise

Wisdom might also strike us as a quality based on a wealth of world knowledge. For this, it’s not that older relative we seek wise counsel from but another family member who can help us sort through the ins and outs of planning a vacation to a new and exotic place. We know we’ll get great advice, from figuring out how to get where we’re going to discovering places to visit that aren’t in any online guide.

The World-Wise

Someone could be wise about one area of life but not particularly good at giving advice in another area. In fact, why would advice even come into the picture? Maybe it’s enough to know a great deal of information without ever having to apply it to practical situations. There’s also quality of wisdom. Beyond being an intellectual exercise, this search for wisdom’s definition can help us think about ways to become a better person ourselves. If we think of the expression “older and wiser,” we know we’ll definitely get older with time, but it would be nice to get wiser, too.

Should The Wise Advise? Who Is Wisdom For?

Cornell University’s Robert J. Sternberg (2024), known for his extensive work in the area of human intelligence, first dabbled in the wisdom field in 1998 with his ”balance” theory of wisdom, a view that proposed the three basic qualities of wisdom of balancing your own needs, the needs of other people, and the needs of the world at large. The wise person, essentially, is motivated to make the world a better place.

Wisdom Intrapersonal, Interpersonal, Extrapersonal

Sternberg now sees this theory as a manifestation of only one component of wisdom, the “process” view that reflects the way that people handle information. His new approach represents a more all-encompassing theory based on the main branches of philosophy. Although this may sound too esoteric, the “Tree of Philosophy (TOP)” is actually highly relatable. Its main thrust is that wisdom goes beyond a particular process or even, as some other theories propose, a quality that comes from within the individual, such as a personality trait or level of intelligence.

Wisdom Within the Tree of Philosophy (TOP)

Philosophy becomes a useful way to address the qualities of wisdom because, as Sternberg maintains, its main branches, epistemology, ontology, ethics, logic, aesthetics, hermeneutics, and axiology, each correspond to important traditions in understanding what’s wise and what’s not. Each, of course, comes with its positive and negative possibilities.

Wisdom’s 7 Branches

Knowing what you know and what you don’t know. The wise person may seem to be all-knowing, but this branch of philosophy suggests it’s as important to make room for the possibility that you don’t. For example, it’s wise to confess to your own limitations but unwise to fake-knowing something you don’t (or can never know). When you make an “educated guess,” be sure not to claim you’re 100% sure.

Wisdom Branch 1: Epistemology

Keep the good of others at the forefront of your decisions.The wise person tries to mend fences, but the unwise person tries to build them.

Wisdom Branch 2: Ontology

Have a clear sense of right and wrong and stick to it. To be wise means that you work hard to follow through on decisions that will further a worthwhile cause. Unwise people will do everything in their power to get ahead, regardless of the consequences to others.

Wisdom Branch 3: Ethics

Be able to make decisions based on analytical judgments, not gut feelings. This could be as simple as trying to figure out why your cellphone won’t charge properly. Stabbing away at it by plugging the cord into the outlet will not get to the root of the problem, as you will need to go through a set of more rational steps.

Wisdom Branch 4: Logic

Promote harmony and grace in the world. A wise person pursues beauty for its own sake, such as enjoying a calm and peaceful shoreline at sunset. Lack of aesthetic wisdom becomes toxic, such as when people make decisions that lead to outrage (such as designing an ugly building) or cause a lack of harmony in the world (such as a dictator invading another country).

Wisdom Branch 5: Aesthetics

Evaluate situations based on facts and not wishes.Wise people might wish that their families got along better but be resigned to the situation as it is. The unwise person will continue to hope and dream that, somehow, their families will miraculously decide to get along.

Wisdom Branch 6: Hermeneutics

Use logic to make decisions. To be wise means that you rely on facts determined through analyses of evidence (which could also mean they can be disconfirmed). Unwise people let their beliefs, religious or otherwise, determine what they believe to be true.

Wisdom Branch 7: Axiology

As Sternberg points out, the problems that require wisdom tend not to have right or wrong answers but are ill-structured. “They often are a mess, and the available solutions may be messy as well.” And although even answers based on knowledge gained in school are usually either right or wrong, any problem can become “emotionally laden.” How many arguments have we had with people that, although settled by a Google search, still left us feeling a bit deflated?

Wisdom: The Jury Is Still Out

To sum up, becoming wise may be thought of as a process, potentially one gained only by life experiences as we fumble our way through problems that life throws at us. By breaking wisdom down into these components, we can at least fumble a bit less and flourish a bit more.

Wisdom As A Process With Components

We do not receive wisdom, we must discover it for ourselves, after a journey through the wilderness which no one else can make for us, which no one can spare us, for our wisdom is the point of view from which we come at last to regard the world.

“We do not receive wisdom, we must discover it for ourselves, after a journey through the wilderness which no one else can make for us, which no one can spare us, for our wisdom is the point of view from which we come at last to regard the world.”

A new theory proposes wisdom’s 7 main branches and how to climb each.

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Habits

Wisdom’s 7 Main Branches And How To Climb Each

Effortless, enjoyable productivity is a state of consciousness prized and sought after by people in business, the arts, research, education, and anyone else who wants to produce a stream of creative ideas and products. That’s the flow, or the sense of being “in the zone.” A new neuroimaging study from Drexel University’s Creativity Research Lab is the first to reveal how the brain gets to the creative flow state.

The Elusive Flow

The study isolated flow-related brain activity during a creative task: jazz improvisation. The findings reveal the creative flow state involves two key factors: extensive experience, which leads to a network of brain areas specialized for generating the desired type of ideas, plus the release of control – “letting go” – to allow this network to work with little or no conscious supervision.

Expertise Plus Release

Flow was first identified and studied by the pioneering psychological scientist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. He defined it as “a state in which people are so involved in an activity that nothing else seems to matter; the experience is so enjoyable that people will continue to do it even at great cost, for the sheer sake of doing it.”Although flow has long been a topic of public fascination as well as the focus of hundreds of behavioral research studies, there has been no consensus about what flow is.

And Nothing Else Matters

One view is that flow might be a state of highly focused concentration or hyperfocus that shuts out extraneous thoughts and other distractions to enable superior performance on a task.

“Classic” Theory: Flow Is a State of Hyperfocus

A related theory based on recent research on the neuroscience of creativity is that flow occurs when the brain’s “default-mode network,” a collection of brain areas that work together when a person daydreams or introspects, generates ideas under the supervision of the “executive control network” in the brain’s frontal lobes, which directs the kinds of ideas the default-mode network produces. The analogy would be that of a person “supervising” a TV by picking the movie it streams.

“Classic” Theory Spin-off: Flow Is A Supervising Director Mode

An alternative theory of creative flow is that through years of intense practice, the brain develops a specialized network or circuit to automatically produce a specific type of ideas, with little conscious effort. In this view, the executive control network relaxes its supervision so that the person can “let go” and allow this specialized circuit to go on “autopilot” without interference. The key to this notion is the idea that people who do not have extensive experience at a task or who have difficulty releasing control will be less likely to experience deep creative flow.

“Alternative” Theory: Flow is Expertise Plus Letting Go

A practical implication of the study’s results is that productive flow states can be attained by practice to build up expertise in a particular creative outlet coupled with training to withdraw conscious control when enough expertise has been achieved. This can be the basis for new techniques for instructing people to produce creative ideas.If you want to be able to stream ideas fluently, then keep working on those musical scales, physics problems, or whatever else you want to do creatively—computer coding, fiction writing—you name it. But then, try letting go.

Train To Get Hold Of. Then Train To Let Go.

You’ve got to learn your instrument. Then, you practice, practice, practice.And then, when you finally get up there on the bandstand,forget all that and just wail.

New Study Reveals How the Brain Achieves a Flow State.

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Productivity

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Problem Solving

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Creativity

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Science & Nature

Creative Flow As Optimized Processing

They are playing a game. They are playing at not playing a game. If I show them I see they are, I shall break the rules and they will punish me. I must play their game, of not seeing I see the game.

Il y en a qui contestent, qui revendiquent et qui protestent. Moi je ne fais qu'un seul geste, je retourne ma veste. Je retourne ma veste toujours du bon cote.There are those who contest, who demand and who protest. I only make one move, I turn my jacket inside out. I always turn my jacket the right side out.

Everybody's playing the game, but nobody's rules are the same.Never make a promise or plan. Take a little love where you can.Never stay too long in your bed. Never lose your heart, use your head.Never take a stranger's advice. Never let a friend fool you twice.Never be the first to believe. Never be the last to deceive.Never leave a moment too soon. Never waste a hot afternoon.Never stay a minute too long. Don't forget the best will go wrong.Better learn to go it alone. Recognise you're out on your own.Nobody's on nobody's side.

Christine Caine: When You’re In A Dark Place

Erwin McManus: How To Know You’re Pursuing Your Dream

The Peter Principle: In Every Hierarchy The Cream Rises Until It Sours

John C. Maxwell: The 4 Times People Change In Life

Denzel Washington: Energy Never Lies

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