The modern world is a great place to live. With less poverty, hunger and violence than ever, life expectancy is rising. But even though we live longer we are more likely to be stressed, anxious and depressed and mental illness is on the rise.Change makes people nervous. This rapid technological progress is influencing everything around us. Social media, for example, has quickly become a huge part of our lives, with major impacts on how we relate to each other.&nbsp;

The world is faster & messier than ever, & it’s making us sick.

Do you repeatedly pick up your phone to check your notifications, seconds after you already checked?Instant-communication technology rules our modern life and seems designed to stress us out.&nbsp;As a result, stress, depression, anxiety, eating disorders and other mental illnesses have been on the rise across the globe. Is it possible to exist in a world of instant communication without losing our minds?🤔 How can we stay happy and healthy in this chaotic digital landscape?Let's find out...⁉️

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We can’t reduce the excess of the world. But we can control how much you let in. Similarly, we can’t stop the advance of technology, but we can learn how to use it responsibly and in a way that benefits our mental well-being.&nbsp;One key tool is to take things away. Don’t try to keep up with the endless stream of news, posts and products, and stop worrying about what you might miss.Instead, choose a few important tasks to focus on and try to reduce all other distractions, especially digital ones.

To stay sane, cut out overwhelming choices with modern life.

Ever since we started carrying the internet in our pocket, it has taken over our lives we’re spending more and more time online.&nbsp;Worse, We have more fuel for our worry than ever. Social-media platforms know that those bad feelings are precisely what keep us scrolling and clicking.First, Understand the digital world is just – digital &amp; second, practice abstinence. People are not their Twitter bios or their Instagram posts. Once we get off the internet, it’s surprising how little we miss it.

Don’t be afraid to unplug – you won’t miss what you miss.

Why are we so concerned with our looks? A big part of the problem is overexposure to unrealistic beauty standards on social media.&nbsp;Worries about appearance are also tied up with our fear of aging. Interestingly, the people who worry least about getting old are older people.There’s only one proven way to feel better about your body, face or age, and that’s to accept them as they are. Luckily, changing your attitude is a lot easier than changing your actual appearance.

Remember that no one worries about your looks but you.

Our contemporary lifestyle, and new technologies, in particular, contribute to stress, anxiety and depression. In order to stay happy and healthy, we need to cut out some of the overload of modern life. Once we become aware of the time we spend scrolling, working and worrying, we can learn to shift our focus and cultivate calmness to help through troubled times.

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Order THE COMFORT BOOK. Available now! THE NUMBER ONE SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER The world is messing with our minds. Rates of stress and anxiety are rising. A fast, nervous planet is creating fast and nervous lives. We are more connected, yet feel more alone. And we are encouraged to worry about everything from world politics to our body mass index. – How can we stay sane on a planet that makes us mad? – How do we stay human in a technological world? – How do we feel happy when we are encouraged to be anxious? After experiencing years of anxiety and panic attacks, these questions became urgent matters of life and death for Matt Haig. And he began to look for the link between what he felt and the world around him. Notes on a Nervous Planet is a personal and vital look at how to feel happy, human and whole in the twenty-first century.

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From the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Midnight Library. The world is messing with our minds. What if there was something we could do about it? Looking at sleep, news, social media, addiction, work and play, Matt Haig invites us to feel calmer, happier and to question the habits of the digital age. This book might even change the way you spend your precious time on earth.

Matt Haig was born in Sheffield, England. He writes books for both adults and children, often blending the worlds of domestic reality and outright fantasy, with a quirky twist.

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Notes on a Nervous Planet

We’re all mind readers. Each of us has the ability to divine the desires, wishes, thoughts and feelings of other people.But understanding others isn’t that difficult, the fact is that we all make mistakes when it comes to reading each other’s minds.There are variety of common errors that we all make in our attempts to understand one another and the reasons behind such misunderstandings, including the stereotypes we hold, which have a major impact on our lives and even our lifespan.

How other people think by getting to know your own mind better?

We believe in the fact that we know everything about your own thoughts, right? Wrong! Unfortunately, we don’t even have access to the mental processes that construct our own behavior.The truth here is that we’re only aware of the “final product” of our thoughts. This is due to majority of our mental processes occur unconsciously, beyond our direct control.Our mind functions by making associations, meaning that two thoughts or behaviors that were previously connected can trigger one another.

How other people think by getting to know your own mind better.

We don’t really know what’s going on in our own minds. What chance then do we have of figuring out the minds of others?Very little, it turns out. It’s very difficult to know what others think of you.So while you might be confident that you’re well-liked it’s almost impossible to tell if others likes you, or just pretending.The fact is that learning more about a person does not give you a greater ability to accurately read their mind; it's merely creates the illusion that you can.

We often think we know more about others than we actually do.

Which is more human: your car or a homeless person? The answer might seem obvious, your brain might disagree. There’s a region in the brain called the medial prefrontal cortex (MPFC) that’s engaged whenever we’re thinking about other people.The MPFC is most active when thinking about people close to us, because we consider them to be as human as ourselves. But the MPFC is far less active when thinking about people with whom we can’t really identify.

We think objects having a mind, but think people as mindless.

One of the biggest obstacles in understanding other people is that we see things only from our own perspective.It’s crucial to remember that the way that you perceive a situation is unique. It follows logically that other people may have a totally different impression than your own.Why is it that we often think in such an egocentric way? The answer is simple: doing so makes us feel more important than we actually are.

When coming to a problem, we start from our egocentric POV.

You’re walking past a man with no shoes and greasy hair and who smells like rotten garbage.We make a snap judgment and place him in a specific category – homeless – without any further reflection. We all categorize people in this way on a daily basis.Gender differences give rise to many stereotypes. These lead us to seeing men and women as distinct types of people, with very different mindsets (such as men as unemotional, women as over-emotional). We overlook the similarities between genders.

Snap judgments based on stereotypes muddle our thinking.

We think that we know the minds of others better than we actually do. To learn how to become more precise “mind readers,” we must first learn more about our own minds and the many flaws and prejudices we hold. Even then, reading minds remains difficult, so the best way to learn about the thoughts and feelings of the people around you is through direct communication.

The Key Message.

An exploration of the human mind's capacity for instinctive understanding about the feelings and desires of others explains how the ability or inability to understand the minds of those around us leads to connection or conflict.

Winner of the 2015 Book Prize for the Promotion of Social and Personality Science (Society for Personality and Social Psychology) Why are we sometimes blind to the minds of others, treating them like objects or animals instead? Why do we talk to our cars, or the stars, as if there is a mind that can hear us? Why do we so routinely believe that others think, feel, and want what we do when, in fact, they do not? And why do we think we understand our spouses, family, and friends so much better than we actually do?In this illuminating book, leading social psychologist Nicholas Epley introduces us to what scientists have learned about our ability to understand the most complicated puzzle on the planet—other people—and the surprising mistakes we so routinely make. Mindwise will not turn others into open books, but it will give you the wisdom to revolutionize how you think about them—and yourself.

Nicholas Epley is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Nicholas Epley has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Nicholas Epley's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Notes on a Nervous Planet

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