Admit it: You’re obsessed with work. Here’s how to change that

When you meet someone for the first time, you probably ask, “What do you do?” Everyone assumes the question is about your career, but who you are and what you do should be more than just your working hours. In fact, having too great a focus on your professional life can be a factor that leads to burnout.

One of the reasons our jobs become an obsession is because we have a greater sense of control over it.  Work is hard, but it still is far more likely to yield reliable gratifications in response to our efforts to control than either the relationships with others or with ourselves.