Us humans.

We're (Mostly) Focused On Ourselves

 • People are spending only a small part of their time on judging you; your self-judgment is overwhelmingly larger.

 • People who seem to be mean don’t usually do it intentionally. There are exceptions, but generally, the hurt you feel is a side-effect.

 • Relationships are your job to maintain. Don’t wait to be invited to parties or for people to approach you.