Self -Altruism
We're (Mostly) Focused On Ourselves
• People are spending only a small part of their time on judging you; your self-judgment is overwhelmingly larger.
• People who seem to be mean don’t usually do it intentionally. There are exceptions, but generally, the hurt you feel is a side-effect.
• Relationships are your job to maintain. Don’t wait to be invited to parties or for people to approach you.
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Reality checks are often humbling but necessary, self altruism sheds light on a principle we usually know as “Selfish”
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We're (Mostly) Focused On Ourselves
- People are spending only a small part of their time on judging you; your self-judgment is overwhelmingly larger.
- People who seem to be mean don’t usually do it intentionally. There are exceptions, but generally, the hurt you feel is a side-effect.
Don't assume people are mean
First, people’s thoughts are mostly focused on themselves. Secondly, they are directing their thoughts towards their relationships, but only how those affect them. That leaves little room for empathy.
This means there is no point in feeling embarrassment; your self-judgment...
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