Talking can keep people in their heads and away from their emotions. Being silent is like emptying the trash.When you stop tossing junk into the void—words, words, and more words—something important rises to the surface.

1. The only way to truly hear yourself is in silence



Most big transformations come about from the hundreds of tiny, almost imperceptible, steps we take along the way. (Remember the Atomic Habit)

2. Steps we take along the way

People want to be understood and to understand, but for most of us, our biggest problem is that we don’t know what our problem is.

3. We keep stepping into the same puddle

You need to let go of the limiting stories you've told yourself about who you are, so you don't get trapped by them, so you can live your life and not the story you tell yourself about it.

4. Part of getting to know yourself is to unknow yourself

If you go through life picking and choosing, if you don’t realize that “the perfect is the enemy of the good,” you may deprive yourself of joy.

5. The perfect is the enemy of the good.

"Part of getting to know yourself is to unknow yourself - to let go of the limiting stories you've told yourself about who you are so that you can live your life, and not the stories you've been telling yourself about your life."- Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone When Maybe You Should Talk to Someone was released into the world, it became an instant New York Times bestseller and international phenomenon, with readers across the globe finding their truth in the powerful stories Lori Gottlieb shared from inside her therapy room. As millions highlighted and underlined page after page, a movement took shape and they asked for more: Can you take these lessons and create for us a guide as transformative as the book itself? Lori decided to do just that. In this empowering, one-of-a-kind workbook, Lori offers a step-by-step process for becoming the author of your own life by giving it a thorough edit. Using eye-opening concepts, thought-provoking exercises, compelling writing prompts, and real examples from the patients in the original book, Lori has created an easy-to-follow guide through the journey of becoming our own editors, examining aspects of our narratives that hold us back, and discovering the ways in which changing our stories can change our lives. An experience, a meditation, and a practical toolkit combined into one, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: The Workbook is the companion readers have been asking for: a revolutionary method for understanding which stories to keep and which to revise so that we can create our own personal masterpieces. By the end of this "unknowing," you will be surprised, inspired, and most of all, liberated.

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INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER! Now being developed as a television series with Eva Longoria and ABC! "Rarely have I read a book that challenged me to see myself in an entirely new light, and was at the same time laugh-out-loud funny and utterly absorbing."--Katie Couric "This is a daring, delightful, and transformative book."--Arianna Huffington, Founder, Huffington Post and Founder & CEO, Thrive Global "Wise, warm, smart, and funny. You must read this book."--Susan Cain, New York Times best-selling author of Quiet From a New York Times best-selling author, psychotherapist, and national advice columnist, a hilarious, thought-provoking, and surprising new book that takes us behind the scenes of a therapist's world--where her patients are looking for answers (and so is she). One day, Lori Gottlieb is a therapist who helps patients in her Los Angeles practice. The next, a crisis causes her world to come crashing down. Enter Wendell, the quirky but seasoned therapist in whose of-fice she suddenly lands. With his balding head, cardigan, and khakis, he seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting. Yet he will turn out to be anything but. As Gottlieb explores the inner chambers of her patients' lives -- a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with a terminal illness, a senior citizen threatening to end her life on her birthday if nothing gets better, and a twenty-something who can't stop hooking up with the wrong guys -- she finds that the questions they are struggling with are the very ones she is now bringing to Wendell. With startling wisdom and humor, Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change. Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is rev-olutionary in its candor, offering a deeply per-sonal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds and providing the rarest of gifts: a boldly reveal-ing portrait of what it means to be human, and a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious lives and our power to transform them.

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

1. The only way to truly hear yourself is in silence

2. Steps we take along the way

3. We keep stepping into the same puddle

4. Part of getting to know yourself is to unknow yourself

5. The perfect is the enemy of the good.

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