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You are at the party you have wanted to attend for a long time. Everyone that matters is there. And you wish to have something interesting to say to make friends instead of sitting alone on the sofa.
You have been constantly thinking about this moment for the past few weeks. But those funny dialogues you build in your head don’t work.
Films and TV series have influenced you too much. But dialogues like that don’t take place in reality. So, as you realize you have nothing to say, you keep shutting up. And it’s becoming to feel awkward.
Eventually, the pressure will become unbearable. And you will try to come up with something to say during the evening. But your outcomes are limited to 3 situations:
So how can you know what to say in advance? And how can you resist the pressure after you get all the attention?
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I have always envied people at the center of attention because of their talking skills.
I wanted to be like them. I wished to make friends as they did. But everything I found interesting wasn’t popular. Or, at least, that’s what I thought. And, worse than that, I couldn’t make it engaging.
In high school, I couldn’t find a way to make many friends. My schoolmates didn’t invite me to parties to parties. And I wasn’t a great communicator.
But with time, I realized my envy was useless. And instead of hating people who were better storytellers, I should have studied their craft.
Those people had better lives than mine because their stories were more interesting. Their ideas were more worth sharing. Or, at least, that’s what I thought. But then, I realized they were just better at telling stories. And that changed everything because I loved telling stories.
So, I started to research and learn storytelling. I knew it was the best networking method in the world. And I wanted it.
Storytelling is the ability of individuals to evoke emotions and create connections through their words. Or, this is the definition I gave it.
As you can see, it is a powerful concept. And people are often afraid of power because it seems dangerous and challenging.
But storytelling is safe and learnable. And you can use it to transform your vision into inevitable consequences.
Great stories can conquer people’s hearts. And, if you learn how to tell them, you can alter their beliefs and emotions.
Alright, storytelling is powerful and everything. You got that. But without practical advice, you will remain the uninteresting guy on the sofa. I know because I was one, and it wasn’t pretty.
So, how can you learn it?
Before anything else, let’s clarify one point – you won’t become the group’s bard overnight.
You won’t wake up tomorrow and make new friends. Nor will you speak to anybody as if you were a natural after reading this newsletter. But with time and practice, you will improve.
From my experience, I made a list of three rules that could help you:
Let’s dive deep into each one now.
Everyone has to begin from some point to make his life sound interesting. And you will start with a list of stories that might become interesting.
Good storytellers don’t have a mental list of good stories to tell. They remember and emphasize them on the go. But you have to start from somewhere to train yourself and improve.
So, list a few stories that happened to you in your recent life. Those stories will become your business card.
Once you become confident enough in your stories, it’s time to test them.
Understanding when to tell a story will be harsh in the beginning. You won’t know how to get attention without being rude. You will overcomplicate things. And you may never get the courage to speak.
So, for your safety, start with your closest friends.
Wait for a moment of silence in the interaction, and start with a random:
Did I ever tell you about that time I…
It’s an easy success. Trust me.
Sometimes, your stories will work. Other times, they won’t. But that doesn’t mean they are bad stories.
Every story has its appeal to the correct group of people. And what works in a situation might fail in others. So, you must learn to read your audience and use your story only if it fits the context. That’s the trickiest part.
Make a list of the stories you would like to tell people. Practice them in front of the mirror and with your closest friends. Then, share your stories with the world and improve them.
Passionate about self-improvement, personal growth, finance, and creativity. I love to inspire people to become the better version of themselves. Author @ www.cosmopolitanmindset.com
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